I'll try to make this story as short as possible, so forgive me if it is slightly larger than normal.I met this girl about a month or so ago. I met her because, quite simply, she liked one of my friends. We soon became friends and began to get along very well. At school dances we hung out, football games, the works. About two weeks ago I decided to tell her I liked her. Fortunately for me, she liked me as well. However, in school she would rarely talk to me, and often said it was due to her having nothing to say. She invited me to hang out with her afterschool and such, and otherwise we got along just fine. I was planning on asking her out this past Tuesday, when I noticed that she was acting strange. Online, I asked her if she even liked me, and she told me she just wanted to be friends. This was so abrupt, considering on Monday she was nice and talking to me as usual. I was crushed. I tried to ask her why, and she just told me things changed. Things changed overnight? I find that highly doubtful and hard to believe. On top of that, I couldn't bear to even find myself near her today, and upon talking to her online, she acted very much unlike herself and just flat out told me "I don't like you, get over it." Whereas last night she kept telling me how nice of a guy I was and that she didn't want to hurt me.Point is, I honestly don't know what I'm asking for. I feel as though I've been outwitted and made a fool of, and I feel as though my feelings mean nothing to anyone. Apparently this is so for this girl. The part that makes this so horrid is that I really like this girl, and I just don't feel as though I can just let go and walk away...:(
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I've been crushed.
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It might be a good idea to make some discreet enquiries of her friends to find out what has happened.
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i'm sorry for what happened to you, but at least she was honest. she could have been more tactful about the way she said it, but be glad she didn't string you along, afraid to tell you. then you would REALLY be crushed.
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Um, you must be way off of the mark. For one, I can say 100% that people do not just change their minds in ONE night, and if she didn't like me the whole time, then she was stringing me along. And I feel like shit. For the first time in almost three years I've felt like cutting again, and I'm confused. Mind you, this is a person that was very affectionate towards me, and then in the course of a single day changed their mind? I don't think so. It doesn't just work like that.
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dude...it sux...i know, ive been in almost the same situation...us guys...never see it coming...and then...BOOM.. we're blind sided by this "i just want to be friends line..." sigh....girls r very complicated..haha...yes u were led on...and besides asking her friends what you did wrong or w/e...theres nothing u can do...as shitty as it sounds...u will just have to get over it sorry though...
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I do not think you fully understand the situation. She wasn't pretending, at least thats not what she told her friends, brother, my friends, and me. So unless she lied to every single person on the planet, she really liked me. And then out of the blue she just decided not to like me. It wasn't as though she were just saying she liked me to make me feel better or something, she really liked me. I mean the girl practically got on her knees to get me to go to the movies with her. Thats why this is so hard. Its like if two people are about to get married, and then the night before the bride to be calls it off and says, "Honey, I just want to be your friend." Its completely random and out of the blue. It wasn't her playing games on me, or me being too stupid to notice she was leading me on. Otherwise I wouldn't have cared as much. Its the fact that we both really had the same feelings and then bam, this.
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see, thats what i dont understand...how can that happen??!?!?! With me, i know that everything is all fine and she likes me...same as you...and then BOOM its over, but normally with me, theres a reason like, for example, "i have just been kicked out of my house, and need to be alone for awhile" (thats a true one...and no, as false as it sounds, it WAS infact the truth...) or sometimes after talking to the friends...i found out theres more to the story than what she told me...but with you...there seems to be NO indication of a break up, NOTHING that her friends knew that you didnt, and NO reason for an ending of the relationship thingy...something is definitely wrong.... talk to her str8 up about it...just ask her "How did it work out that you liked me one day, then the very next day, im just a friend...?" ask her for a reason why...and if she cant give you one...well....
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I mean, you all are right I guess. I am going to have to just get over this girl in some way or another, but it really hurts that it was completely random and now she is acting as though I never meant a thing to her. Its almost as if someone just took all her memory of me and replaced it with malice. :-/
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She could have easily found out something about you and changed her mind about wanting you. This happens with me a lot of the time, and yes, we're at fault for not letting the guy know when he's doing something wrong. Either that or she doesn't want to be hurt, so she wants to hurt you before you can do the same to her. I don't know what else could be the case...and yes, girls are very complicated.
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what ure saying, massgrvgurl, makes sense, but if u did that wouldnt you tell one of your friends about it? and then your friends would normally inform the ex l8er? thats what i THINK should/would/does happen
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Well, I don't exactly know of anything that she could possibly find out about me that she already didn't know, but maybe. And its not that girls are complicated, to be honest, I find it to be so stupid that a girl would do something like that. It hurts the people that care about them, makes them look like retards, and they don't even have a reason? Seriously, if a girl just up and walks away for no reason, that is very dumb. That doesn't make them complicated at all.
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see, you have a point daimon...me, i think that just DOESNT happen...there HAS to be some reason...think about it...u dont wake up in the morning and say "today is a nice day to dump my boyfriend...i dont know why, and i love him very much...but today is a nice day to dump him" that doesnt happen...there is ALWAYS a reason...so instead of saying that girl has problems...im going to assume there is some gay reason you dont know...but maybe thats just me, and my way of thinking...If ure still puzzled...think about all the dating situations you and your friends have experienced...and remember how each ended...i just did that, and not ONE ended with absolutely NO reason...even make up a possible situation in your head...there is ALWAYS a reason...period we can argue this all day...but whats the point?...youre a good guy...and the best thing u can do is forget her, and find a new NORMAL girl who wont think its a nice day to end a relationship
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Eh, thanks. I know that eventually it would be in my best interests to let this girl go, but for now I just can't. She still means way too much to me. I know that sounds stupid, considering how she's hurt me, but I just can't see myself turning away from someone that I care about. But thanks ^_^
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oh totally man...np...i think thats the smartest thing to do...it is really hard to leave these girls after you break up...i know i always want to still be friends, but know inside i gots to go...but yea..peace out man, and good luck!