I was too small

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my boyfriend and i went to have sex with eachother for the first time, and he is slightly bigger than my last boyfriend. ok and this was really embarrassing...I was too small for him to get in... we have not since "tried" again. any advice on getting past this lil dilemma?? please help

I doubt that you were too small. The vagina can stretch to unimaginable sizes. Rather you were not relaxed or wet enough.

You can't be too small and still fit a baby's head.... lolJust use a good amount of lube, or use a good condom ( TROJAN!) this will how ever make things a slight easier.... tell him to take a grip right behind his head.. gently force while rubbing up and down between your lips increasing the force little by little and it should go in..

In reply to: tell him to take a grip right behind his head.. gently force while rubbing up and down between your lips increasing the force little by little and it should go in.. ditto.also - two letters - K Y

I also have the same problem with a guy that I've been dating on and off for a year now.We have sex everyday, and EVERYTIME we have to take about 10 minutes just to get him to fit. He probably will never fit all the way, because it hurts me too much.Lube helps but it's a waste of money.If you start with 69, that will wet everything up for you so that it will be easier for him to slip into you.Don't tighten up, relax.I have to give my man a quick blowjob before I jump on him just to make it work.

thanks, we haven't tried the lube yet. was definitely planning on it for next time. he did however try holding his dick right behind the head, doing that was the closet we came that night. it was just a lil embarrassing ya know. but I am just freakin out cuz I am worried we will never get it right, granted it was only one night that we have tried, it is just that this has never happened to me or him before.

3 words for ya sister! Never give up! And " Just keep tryin"

I just wanted to put in my 2 cents here. I'm a big guy, and it took me time to figure all this out. Over time I have learned somethings. #1 Astroglide (a brand of lube) is your friend. #2 Take your time, don't rush anything, in reallity it's taken 2-3 weeks to get past the pain of streaching phase for most my previous lovers. A guy is willing to work with you trust me. Nothing were then being all ready for sex, and not being able to finish the job once your body is prepped and ready...blue balls just suck. I found the only puting the tip in is a great start but its very hard to resist the urge to thrust once orgasim is on its way, you may want to finish it masterbating together for the first few times. Astroglide really is the best; you can get it at wallmart, I'ved had girls use pretty much every lube out there one me. A BJ only works in a pinch after she's already been streched out...I don't want to scare you, but it's probably going to hurt for a while. Hormones do an excellent job of helping you to not mind or forget about the pain all together.

Very well explained escapist!!SO TRUE.