iam am 16yrs old and i have been feeling really depressed latly and it feels like everyone is out to get me, and it feels like everyone is judgeing me and people have just been mean to me like this girl said something to me because my arms dident look big to her and then she said "maybe you have a gut to so she grabed my stomach, maybe iam jsut letting these little things get to me. ive been felling liek this for a couple of days. and i was wondering does anybody else ever feel this way?
Yes. I've gotten really paranoid a bunch of times just like that. Take one thing on at a time, be patient, and things will pass.
yeah, i do. that girl, she's a bully. Grrr
One time had on this stoopid "Body By Adidas" half shirt on in high school and this fat girl (not that it matters, but kinda) in the hallway said "You aint got the body for that shirt!"
I remember feeling self conscious the rest of the day, but then I thought, My body looks a hell of a lot better than most people's, and ESPECIALLY that girl!
After that random comments didnt affect me as much, but I let one girl's comment who I didn't even know get to me. That's when I started realizing how stoopid people really are.
but sexpert, words do hurt and they never leave you either. :frowning:
Youre right CR, words do hurt. I grew up with a very critical mom who instilled something in me which is both good and bad. My emotions are calloused, so instead of getting hurt I get angry, and I retaliate with more verbal force than was used on me.
I have been told that I can chop someone down verbally if they upset me, because I go for their weak spots.
I am a very emotional person internally, but my emotions rarely see the light of day, and that's a good thing in my personal situation. I have so many strong emotions and opinions, they're better tucked away out of sight.
But, its a good thing to be able to speak your mind without emotions attached to your words. You are much more clear and assertive. Being honest doesn't mean being mean.
By the sounds of it Sexpert, what that girl said 2 u u should have been able to come out with something really creul, i would of, i'd have probably laughed in her face and some mean remark about her size, sounds like the bitch would have deserved it.
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One thing i've learnt is to not let people walk over you. If you double up as a door mat people just wont respect you. Some people tend to think by getting muddy feet they get respect so they clean them off on doormats like you. Just don't let people do it, your still young, it'll come natually.
I must admit im my own worst enemy, and the things i hate most about myself are rarely braught up by others which is good for me, i aint fat or nothing, its more im skinny and i hate to say it but im self consious about it, but im working on it. In the end who gives a shit on what other people think as long as your happy with yourself.
An easy way to get respect is to not buckle into peer pressure. I've never been one to ie, i don't drink much, even if everyone else is doing shooters 'n' stronger stuff i'll stick with my pint, and quite often i don't drink at all. At first people would be all like 'aww, g'on...' type stuff but eventually they respect the fact you can think for yourself.
People change, issues you have now will dissappear in time, by the time your about 17-18 people don't really 'pick' on people, once school finnishes especially.
Words don't have to hurt and definitely don't have to stay with you. I haven't been cut down very often but by not getting pissed off it makes the other person even more pissed than they originally were. I get some satisfaction when I see a person get really pissed off because I didn't react to what they said in a way they wanted. Words mean nothing without emotional reaction, I said this to mywordsRweapons and he blew up. Although he always blows up. lol. My philosophy is kill them with kindness and it's worked 99.9% of the time. Only one occasion a guy pissed me off really bad. I didn't confront him though. I talked to a bunch of the girls in school about how much of a jerk he was including the girl he really really liked. Heheheh. He was never able to get a girl after that. One girl even bitched him out for me even though I told her not to. He's never said a word to me after that. Whenever he sees me he looks away and passes by. Anyways, there are other ways of handling what's thrown at you. Be a winner by being the better man.
I think that everyone has there moments were their feeling depressed, but hopefully itll go away... and that girl she needs to stop giving girls a bad name, ill hunt her down
depression is a terrible terrible thing I would pick extreme physical pain over it any day, but one thing that helps is find someone who you can really really talk to for example a teacher, friend or your parents or something it really helps.
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I agree. Someone to talk to is a good thing. I've had what you've had but worse for about three years and if you ignore and let it get to you like I did, sometimes you just can't take it and bust into tears and think you won't achieve your goals or dreams and will porbably end up dying an 80 year old, unmarried virgin who'll be dead in his small cottage for three days before anybody finds his corpse with his eyes eaten out by his 50 or so beloved cats who, along with everybody else, secretly hated you too, and all emotions be numbed down to be the same emotion all over. Anyways, get help, because it works. Make it proffessional, most likely. Friends you never know what they'll do with the info and it's strange to do it with the people who cook your food or grade your tests.
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