2 girls, only 1 me. NEED HELP PLEASE!

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I am a student in college.
Last tuesday at school, I was sitting at the bench I always do smoking hookah with my friends when a this asian girl came and hung out with us. Lets call her "J". We were talking and somehow we ended up talking about what kinda girls/boys we liked. "J" asked what i thought about her friend and showed me some pictures, and then her friend came by our bench. Lets call her friend "M". M was hella fine...When J and M were leaving to head to their class J asked to see my phone and then put her # in my phone. She also told me she thought I was cute. I later texted her and told her I thought she was cute too.

Soon after J texted me and we started talking. The next day me, J , and M went to lunch. Both of the girls are international students. J is not my type or style physically...but she has very good english and I am able to communicate with her. She also has a very good personality and I enjoy her company. M on the other hand, doesnt have as good of english speaking skills. She is VERY attractive though, and I find myself attracted to her style and physically. She has a good personality also, but we haven't clicked on the same lvl as me and J.

This is the complicated part. M has a boyfriend. Now before you judge me read this. M has been going out with her boyfriend for 6 years now. She is tired of her relationship with him and he is not a very good boyfriend to her anymore. He negects her and she wants to start dating other people, the problem is she lives with him and she is a international student.

J and I hung out earlier this week. We met up with M got some food, then M went home and me and J went to see 2012. It was pretty good, I am noticing J is making moves on me. We kinda held hands at the movies and she is growing on me, but I am bothered by the fact that she is not my type physically or in style. J is starting to text me all the time and wanting to hang out. She says she misses me all the time and the other night wanted me to sleep at her place cause she was lonely. I of course did not stay at her place. I am very cautious because I do not want to lead her on if my feelings are not true. I told J, I do not want to rush anything because I want to be sure before anything happens.

I am seriously really lost and confused. I like J, but at the same time I am strongly attracted to M. I do not want to lead J on if I am not going to be serious because I am a good person. But at the same time I am worried about making a move on M because she and J are best friends and also...M is dating J's cousin. The situation is complicated. And I need good advice. I do not need people judging me or saying I am a horrible person for wanting a girl with a BF. Because she does not want to be in that relationship anymore and I know I can treat a girl right if I start dating her. I do not want to hurt J, by going after M because I am 100% sure J likes me.

Okay, I read this three times and I'm still confused. Someone else was here reading this and said it "reads like an LSAT question" (but I don't know what that is).

I dont know whats so confusing about it lol. And its not a LSAT question...sorry if my questions are thorough, detailed and a tad bit long lol.

Um.. you need to back off of M. Doesn't matter what the heck you think about her relationship with her boyfriend. Point blank. She has a boyfriend. Back the frig up. I don't understand why people think it's their right to move in on someone else's boyfriend and girlfriend. That's just so damn disrespectful.And no offense, but your reasons sound madd shallow. J doesn't match you in style or physically? What does that mean? Style and physically? You just said that you click more with J and that you guys get along great. You know more about her. You hardly know M AND she has a boyfriend. But you don't want to do anything with J because you're physically attracted to M. Madd shallow, in my opinion. Sorry to judge. So are you thinking about sex in this case? You like M cause she's something nice to look at? I mean it's all up to you. Do you. If you want to move in on another man's woman. It's all good. That's you. Just cut if off with J and tell her you're just not attracted to her like that and don't lead her on. And go have fun with M.

1. She told me she is tired of her bf and wants to try other people...

2. Personality is important, but isn't physical attraction just as important? Your lying if you say all you care about is personality. I know I would not want to wake up in the morning next to a girl I am not attracted to physically. All I have to say

1. More thing. I don't understand why people like to play the "shallow" card so often. So what now I am a bad person because the way a girl looks matters to me? If your saying you have no standards in physical characteristics of the opposite sex then you are not normal in society.

Also how does not really my style not make sense? Every1 has their own style and a style they like their girl to be. A Biker who likes harley and leather jackets, most likely his style wont be a preppy girl who shops at holister. How does this not make sense? Unless ur one of those people who don't care what u wear.

OK M has been in a relationship for SIX years!!!! Thats 1/3 of her life!! What makes you think she'll leave her boyfriend and if she does do you really want to be her rebound?? Because you will probably get hurt too.

And do u want a girl who cant speak your language properly? hmmm prob not.

J sounds like a great fit. Look past the physical appearance and you could see the one for you inside her.

Wait too long and you could lose her.

Think with your head... not your cock.

^^ this.

and yes dude you do sound shallow because you're willing to pick a girl you barely even know just because she looks good over someone who you get along with extremely well.

if that's not shallow I don't know what is.

if you're just in it for the sex then be fuck buddies. but don't call it a "relationship"...

I posted this a little while ago. Update, I thought about it for a long ass time. Said to myself forget about this M she has a bf, I dont feel like bothering.Im going out with J now. And the thing that is interesting is the more we have been hanging out the more physically attractive she is looking to me...its weird. But her personality, and the way she is when its just us hanging out, makes me really happy and that makes me want her physically WAY WAY MORE now.