i am posting this as its the only way i get to really let things out on here...sorry if it bores uok well since having my son i have had friends lost them and never got them back. I feel isolated form the world i only have my bf n nan n grandad oh and my sister who lives over a 100 miles away from me now. I cant make new friends ive tried i feel so alone and unwanted. I see other people my age with babys who have lots of freinds who dont mind a child tagging along, but all the friends i had didnt like the fact that if they wanted to see me mj had to be there or that if we had to go out i would have to plan way ahead for a babysitter. I tried to talk to my friends b4 they abandonded me about this but i dont see why i should say sorry for having baby around everytime they want to come for a drink. I have ended up with no one all the other people i talk to but live very far away from me alls tell me what they have been upto and who they have had round for a chat. I have never had anyone round to my house for a chat n a coffee for over 2 yrs now becouse they make excuses up or they dont bother with me at all !!!!!! my house is really nice not dirty or anything so its defanitly not that . I aint a cliggy person so i dont know what it is. Ive tried everything but im still friendless i dunno what to do anymore i just want the girlie chat n laughs i used to have i dont regrett baby one bit as i love him more than anything in this whole wide world, i couldnt live with out ever.sorry its all babble n long ...
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Lonley and un heard
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I really dont want to say this but i sorta of have to i guess. Those friends of yours weren't real friends, real friends wouldn't have abandoned you. As your kid grows older it will be easier to have time ot make new friends. Try and be thankful for what you have i guess. My friend (well semi friend shes a friend of a friend) has a baby and I love it when the baby is there. I dont like the mother all too much but the baby is great. I don't even like kids all that much, but having the baby their when we are watching a movie or something is really cool. Sometimes i'm concerned with the fact that i'm 17, and the other people are 18,19, and 21 and we are alone with a baby actually in charge of it all the time, but its a great shread of light on innocence in life. I don't see why anyone would abandon a friend because of that.
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No, Its ok.. Post as much as want, when you want, how you want.. No biggie... Friends ( or used to be ones ) can be total asses sometimes... I dont have alot of friends.. i have a few.. But.. you need to hang in there for your son, He needs you.. Properly raised and all.. He will become your best friend, and always be there for you. Screw your other friends.. they can goto hell... Just focus on your son... If your patient enough.. You will develop friends.. Don't worry about it... Just focus on your new best friend ( your son )
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Yeah.. I meant to say that about the friends to... And also Fluffy... Were always here for you. Were your friends. Even tho you can see us .. or we cant stop in for a cup of coffee.. were here for you.. 24/7
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In reply to:Were your friends. Even tho you can't see us .. FaBMX is right! u can email me anytime. I liek getting emails and sending them Even tho you can't see us .... I have a very close friend who I have never met in person but It don't seem like it. (btw, Diver i got somthig to ask you...so remind me to when we chat again) sorry about that fluffy but i keep forgetting to ask him it.
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FaB and CR are right. Don't hesitate to post how you feel. We're here to listen to you. If it makes you feel better, I'd visit you if I lived closer. Your son loves you more than a friend can, which makes him more than a friend. Don't feel lonely fluff.
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Well I sure as hell hope I can come for a cuppa if I'm down your way
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diver you welcome anytime.....well n update i went on my commuity support meeting this week (friday) it was horrible everyone was much older than me and was married n owned there house when they asked me how old i was n how old baby was they just slowly began to ignore me like i wasnt there. Any input i put in was ignored but when others said the same input as i did everyone praised them and said it was a good idea i cant believe how ignarnat people can be. I try to present myself well so i dont have people acying like that towards me but they still do.
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babe... lol you forgot to log inbut anyways lolhave you thought that it's maybe the way you put yourself across?? I mean, I know it's a effort (I do it all the time) but if you go in all happy and bubbly people "usually" take more notice. Assertive is the word I was looking for
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i used to come across all bubble and stuff but now i dont bother i just try and be nice and happy not too over the top thats y i cant understand why people have to be so ingnarnt they dont talk to me enough to get to know me..i logged in now lol
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I know it's hard, but once you've "put yourself across" people will notice you. I know it's horrible to say, but if you want to make "friends" a bit of lying about your feels will help. I know it's easier said than done... hell I know I'm not out of my depression, but I do honestly feel a hell of a lot better, and I know you will to.This is going to sound silly, but have you thought about taking up a new hobby? Something like judo, where you’re interacting with people and make friends that way. I've found it works, so why not try that course of action.And babe, next time you think you’re going to do something, phone someone, what about the Samaritans, or even NHS direct can help. You’ve got my number and can use it at anytime... it hurts me more when people feel they can't come to me... I know the same is likewise for others.
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you know im so glad i found this site it has opened my mind and give me ahell of alot of support diver deadinsde cr eddie fab no1 hels and the rest of u if i wrote u all in it would go one forever. thanks all of you for everything i dont honestly know what i would do with out the friends i have on here you lot mean the world to me diver your a star if i was near to doing something sorry but id have to call you honey. I feel so drained and low right now i think a nice hot bath would do the trick thanks divver and all of u for everything really thankyou this is what i really need right now thanks again.
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you know, 4-5 months ago I didn't honestly think I could live another day on this earth, yeah with the support from friends in the real and online, I've managed to pull thought the most of it. and you know, you've only got to say the word and I'll be in my van and heading up your way if you needed someone to talk to that much. But I've managed to pull though the worst of it, and this time around has been the worst. I read some of the posts I made during the early months and I'm like "I really can't remember any of this stuff".I did it babe, and I know you can too.
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ur just get diver you honeslty truley are a star
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Hi Helms...
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same goes for you kerrie! you've really helped me and cheered me up too...so thanks alot (and the rest of u too)
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yeah, kerrie, u r a star, have helped me when i needed it most. a true friend and are one in a million hun.