This is mainly about friendship. I have known this one chick for 2 months now, and we talk about everything (we are really good friends nothing more, at least that is what i think we are). I have been friends b/c she told me she was with someone, but recently she has been very friendly. She is gonna buy me a journal for Christmas (keep in mind we have never met). She wants to come over and sing with me when I play guitar. I believe that she is trying to be a good friend, but she has brought up things that her ex is trying to get back with her and she is not looking for that kind of relationship. I mean it is entirely possible that they broke up and i never heard. But from what I have told you what do you think she is trying to do?I just want to learn...That is why I ask.
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A general question....I am not sure where to post
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Didn't you swear off girlfriends for a while or something?
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yeah...I am just friendly with everyone now, but do you think she is just being a good friend or something else?
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It's hard to say what another person is thinking. Even with what you've said. She could even be on the fence in her own mind. I've had guy friends that I had feelings for but just didn't have them strongly enough to actually be with them. (I did sleep with a lot of my guy friends.) I just can't explain why I didn't sleep with all of them. I think you're going to make yourself nuts if you keep thinking about this kind of stuff. You should REALLY swear off girlfriends for a while. Even if they want to go out with you tell them no you're working on finding yourself for a while. It would be good for you. It would be good for me too but I’m married so it’s a little tougher for me. lol I've never really been without a bf or husband. And I really think everyone should experience it. Sometimes wish I'd have taken the time. Anyway, good luck.
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yeah, i am not in the mood for a girlfriend...I have never had one, but I am just looking for friends, and if it is made more than that, than that is fine with me. So she might be on edge or just trying to be a good friend? Well I will just continue to be a good friend.
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That sounds like a wonderful plan.
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It sounds like she, too, would just like to make some good friends. But my guess is that she's also open to this developing into something more, if it happens. Why not just think of her as a friend who happens to be a girl as opposed to a "girlfriend" and just relax and enjoy the ride?
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yep, that is what I am gonna do. I like her too much to lose her.
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Yeah she is just wants to be good friends. She is still with her boyfriend. I called to wish her a happy holidays...I am afraid I have set a high standard as a friend very early. I am gonna have a lot of trouble staying that good of a friend when swamped in school, but i will try, lol...
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I am in sales and one of the things you learn is to keep your face constantly in front of the customer. When people are happy with the relationship they are in (sales or otherwise) you just smile and constantly (by your presence) remind them that they have alternatives. At some point, if there develops a problem with their current realationship, who do you suppose they think of? You! And you are already somewhat of a known individual. Just keep on keepin' on. Don't push things. Are you in any classes with her? In her dorm? Anything that will allow you to connect with her occasionally? By the way, I think your tagline pretty well expresses what is going to make you victorious in the long run.
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lol...we stay in contact constantly. we talk on AIM or phone...she tells me that she enjoys it and i am good at making her laugh (her own comedian). but that is just how i am...lol
