i know that the first time, or couple of times is usually painful for girls. But the other night my girlfriend and i tried to have sex for the 1st time and she was hurting bad by the time i got halfway in. She is pretty small and tight, but she said that it almost felt like a burning sensation on top of the streching pain (I was wearing trojan condoms w/ lube and spermicide if that makes any difference). I was wondering how much does it usually hurt for girls the first couple of times, and is there any way to make it less painful for her (stretches ect.)? Also, we arent sure if her hymen is broken or not, is there anyway you can teel, and if it isnt, does that hurt when it breaks? Thnaks for your time and advice!
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Pain During Sex (1st Time)
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There's the possibility that's she's allergic to the latex or the lube or the spermicide, but the major source of pain in first time sex is usually from tightening up because of nerves.If you got halfway in her hymen is probably broken, but that could have happened earlier. Nowadays most hymens get broken by tampons long before first sex.
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Ask her if she's ever masturbated. Now, this may sound, like, perverted on my part, but it may be that she's just not used to sticking something inside herself. It's probably just the first-time thing, but she could have an allergic reaction to the condom (doubtable, though). If this pain continues in later sex, try having her see a doc.
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my first time hurt really bad that we had to stop. it will continue to hurt a little bit, but the pain will eventually subside. maybe you need a little foreplay beforehand, that may help a little.
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it hurts no matter what the first few times, have her try to be on top so she can control the angle, etc. that is what helped me.
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Maybe you penetrated too fast, in your excitement. A lady needs lots of stimulation before sex! Don't go diving in there before she's ready. Pain is no fun. Work up to it slowly! Her pain will eventually subside, when she's used to your dick. PATIENCE, my man!
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I've read the post here and wonder about what I am not seeing, how old is the girl? If she is very young this could also be a factor in pain. How ready is she? Is she doing this just to please you or does she believe she is ready? She can be tensing up due to being nervous of the first time or as a signal that she is just not ready.I realize the typical posts here are suggesting to just go for it and be patient and gentle but sometimes it goes farther than that and you might just need to back off for now.
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thats odd. Sex can hurt the first time. but if your normal sized it should be fine. how would she have a baby. Some girls just need time to get used to it.
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foreplay helps the first time i had it with my girl it hurt her but the second time i went down on her first and than had genital sex she told me it hurt her alot less cause she was so well lubricated
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Just the opposite for me... I don't like starting on top because when it does hurt, I don't want to control the pain I'm getting. knowing that if I move it's going to hurt. I like it missionary style at first because then he can just get in there all at once and have it hurt, then it will feel fine. Rather then me being on top and doing a little at a time because it hurts. It feels way better for me on bottom anyway