My father has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. Yesterday he came home drunk and told me all about his and my mom's marital problems. He told me that its because my mom doesn't want to have sex with him for 8 years now because he said she said he was dirty. Then hewent on and on about how he had an affair with this otherwoman because he needed her money as a loan! shit! now I can't even look him in the eye without being angry! Ihate my life! I wish I lived in a wonderful neigborhood not this ghetto place we live in with people who love me who don't burden me with unnecessary things. I hate my father! I hate my mother! I wish I was never born! now they hate me because its christmas and they said I shouldn't be in a bad mood!
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Am I wrong for being angry?
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It can be very difficult being told secret stuff. A secret can indeed be a burden, and I don't think your father should have burdened you with it. Your father's issues with sex and your mother and the other woman are between them, and really none of your business.
Being angry doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. However, it doesn't help you much. Try to accept that your parents are fallible people who make stupid mistakes, like all people do, whether they are parents or not, young or old.
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You have every right to be upset and angry......but eventually you will have to accept that your parents have problems - but - that they are NOT your problems.....Your dad shouldn't have told you......but he did and now you have to try and cope with your own feelings towards them......and hey who cares if its christmas or not, you have a right to be in a bad mood!Try and think postiviely about this, anything you go through will make you stronger.......keep smiling honey
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I am sorry for your pain. You are right to be angry. But as stated above, your parents' problems are their problems, not yours.