Low self-esteem

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My Gf suffers from low self-esteem I do every thing I can to reasure her but i don't know what else to do. She dont like her breast size(30a). I told her that I think smaller breasts are better,but she dont belive me.What can i do to reasure her that 30a is fine??

Show her your chest and prove that she could be doing a lot worse than 30A LOLWhenever she goes into a dip just be there for her, reassure her as you have been doing, I'm sure she notices and she'll realise that she still has you, no matter what she thinks of herself.

the drugs they have her on make her totaly paranoide.she constantly thinks im cheating she was'nt like this before they changed to her to welbutrin.

What medication is she on? And what sickness does she have?And about the reasurance, well, indeed, be there for her whenever she needs it, and probably try not to mention it if possible.

As he said, she's on welbutrin. And I'm assuming it's for depression? I took welbutrin for a short time, and knew that one of it's uses was for depression, but in my case it was for ADD.

Welbutrin is usually used for depression, though it can also be used to help people over addictions (it's marketed under a different brand name for that, Zyban, but it's the same stuff). It's not a bad antidepressant, and it doesn't decrease your libido like a lot of them do. But it sounds like it's not right for your girlfriend, if it's making her paranoid.

The Docter just put her on welbutrin 3 weeks ago. she was on prozac before that but she sayed she did not like it and did'nt take them.she's also precribed blue diazapams .5 (like vallumes)for her nerves ,but i take more of them than she does.I dont trust any of the anti depressents they had me on them and i did not like them. ps. don't know how to spell valume

Also she dont use it very much but she has a a presription for Rohypnol(roofies) for acute insomnia or when her nerves are relly bad.Again i use them more than she does (they go good with cocain)

that's real smart

she takes tryptophan (5-htp) some times. Personally I dont think she should be taking any drugs but I guess its her choice

personally you shouldn't be taking them either

i know i should not be taking them but they help me deal with my social anxiety by relaxing me.

Grow the f*** up and get rid of the pills. Rely on yourself not some stupid medication. Pills aren't the answer you are!

i think it is his choice to take drugs or not. though it is dumb to take prescription medication if it is not pprescribed and do illegal drugs but anxiety can get really horrible (though not an excuse)....Btw..how old is ur girlfriend cause if she is a teen, that is a sh*t load of drugs to be taking for anyone. although my mom takes over 10 prescription drugs for many medical problems. about the 30 A's....that it fine... people have many different size boobs some AA's some iii's, it just depends on genes and age and other factors...the only thing you can really only do is just keep reassuring her that you like them and that they are fine........theirs my two cents lol

As for your own problems, they are just that, yours. But for your girl: I dated a girl for 7 months, my longest relationship, who would find any excuse to get depressed. I tried to help as much as I could but it eventually became more than I could take, and I just ignored her. It started when she saw a design I put on my arm one night with an eraser and she started to get into the cutting business, which eventually led to her being anti-social and generally very sad. Now be careful before you take this advice, because I tend to get very lucky with dealing with things my own way. My solution, after a few months of being a shoulder to cry on, was to tell her to shut the hell up and get over herself. This may have been the worst thing to do, but it seemed to work. Given, we broke up soon after, but she is a much happier person now.In any event, I feel that depression, and social anxiety are both figments of the human imagination. It is hard to say why people turn out so sad, but I think that there are always easier ways around the problems than pills.

In reply to:My solution, after a few months of being a shoulder to cry on, was to tell her to shut the hell up and get over herself. This may have been the worst thing to do, but it seemed to work. Given, we broke up soon after, but she is a much happier person now. Well, don't you think that can be one of the reason why there are few people that choose to be depressed; because there are people who makes them feel more vulnerable by being a constant shock absorber? I think the more that you pay too much attention to their problem, the weaker they become because they don't learn how to deal with their insecurities alone. In the place where I came from, where people are so poor and has plenty of reasons to be insecure, and afraid and uncertain of the future, I wonder why people are never deppressed?I did'nt mean to be really insensitive in this case, but I think the persons that suffers such kind of depression leading to mistrust has more problem concerning sanity... it's not about what they have/ not have, it's about what's in their mind...