Sigh... I'm not ready to have sex; I don't want to, but I know very few guys will want to be in a relationship and not have sex. I'm not taking any kind of birth control and I don't want to have to rely solely on a condom. I don't have health insurance and very little money. If I were to get on birth control it would have to be something other than the pill. I'm quite forgetful and inconsistent. I like that my life is simple and that I don't have to worry about getting pregnant. Besides that worry, I just can't see myself in a intimate relationship like that. I look at porn, I get turned on, it's not like I'm asexual or something. Having sex with someone is just on a whole new level. Plus if something like and unexpected pregnancy does happen, I'd want to be with someone I know wouldn't leave me, or if he did I wouldn't have to worry about him being a good father or supporting his child. I also don't want to be a broke college student.I just don't like having to share myself, with someone that may not love me, or want to marry me, or may just be using me. If the guy does leave me, I have to do it all over again...and again.... I don't want to have sex with different people, especially with someone that isn't going to marry me or be the father of a possible child. I just don't like the idea of sharing by body that way especially not multiple times. I know that's not normal, but I don't feel weird. I do know I other people see it, but I don't feel I'm crazy, stupid or a freak. I think I'm okay. Everything makes me really sad, because the reality of it all is that no one is going to wait around for me to be ready, or be "normal". After two months in a relationship and no sex, most guys would dump me. I don't want to be alone. I want to be loved and desired. I want to kiss, hug, and hold hands. I feel like no one will want to put up with me.So what do you suggest I do: conform or stay true myself? I've been told that I should seek counseling, I mean people should want to have sex with other people. I like the way I am, but I don't want to be alone.
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It feels hopeless.
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I am sure there are still many guys who are happy themselves to wait, despite the impression you might get.Of course you should be true to yourself.
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If they just want to be with you and dont just want sex then they will wait.
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That makes sense....
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That makes sense....
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Are you a boy? I'm just curious.
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I'm an old man. :smile:
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A boy, No! A man, yes...... But you're not old!You're not even 30 yet
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I passed that particular milestone long ago, Roc. I'm older than thor, even.
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Geez, all these old people on here!