so i met this really awesome guy about 3 weeks ago.. and he was there on new years.. and we really like eachother.. alot.. Well the problem is that he is black and my mom told me that she doesnt want me to date him and that i should stick with white guys.. which really kinda pissed me off! She is only acting like this because she found out i lost my virginity a few months back.. I dont know what to do.. because i really like him and he really likes me.. and im scared that if i bring him over my parents are gonna be rude to him..
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My parents
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Interracial relationships always adds some kind of extra burden to the matter. It's hard to give advice because it really depends on the personalities of the people your dealing with. The best advice I can give you hear is to act responsibly and talk intelligently with your parents. Explain that you like each other and you hope they can treat him with the same respect as any other person if not more.
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and no more advice?
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As websexinfo said, it will put extra burden on your relationship. I've known a few mixed-race couples and it's no secret that they don't have it easy.
I don't want to put you off, though. Instead, I think it would be a good idea for you to have a proper talk to your mother about it and see what concerns her. You might find that she's just concerned for you because of what you might have to go through together in the outside world. At least once you've talked it over with your parents you will know where they are coming from and you can decide what to do next.
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i say stick with your own color that stuff gross me out just my opinion
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why does it gross you out
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i dunno i problie sound like a asshole it s just not normal i think but hey thats my opinion i'm not trying to be a ass
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That is the stupidest fucking thing I have ever heard!
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lots of people think like that.. but i think he will ask me out soon and im definetly gonna say yes..
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In reply to: i dunno i problie sound like a asshole it s just not normal i think but hey thats my opinion i'm not trying to be a ass Correction: You sound like a stupid, ignorant, racist asshole.
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Interracial dating is only a problem when family and friends have an issue about it, it also depends were you come from. I never had a problem with it buts is because my family doesn't care nor do my friends. Talk to your parents. And if they still object and you really want to be with him, you can not tell your parents and not have him come over, but then that causes a lot of issues about lieing and making sure it can't get back to your parents.
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yeah i realy am pro skin head so yeah i and very racist and i'll be the first one to play romp a stomp with a niggers face
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That means you'd probably kill me for being biracial... No offense but I don't like you for that. That just be my personal opinion.
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probaly and you do have a right to be mad about it lol
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In reply to: yeah i realy am pro skin head so yeah i and very racist and i'll be the first one to play romp a stomp with a niggers face Dude, that's not even remotely funny, even if it's meant as a joke. That kind of language should not be permitted on A2A.
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Okay everyone...lets be nice. This is pinkranger's thread...she's asking for suggestions, so lets keep it on that topic, not turn it into a race debate/bashing thread.
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I agree with websexinfo...what type of person is he? Me personally i wouldn't want to see my daughter with a guy with baggy pants, cornrows, bumping loud ass music, and other seterotypical but sometimes true comments about black men, with all this being said, i am a black female. I'm 21 years old and i've dated outside of my race since i was probably 15 years old, so to me there is nothing wrong with it because truth is there are asshole men and women in every race. My current boyfriend is 40 years old and white so we get a lot of WTF!!!! stares. If it's something you can get use to go for but know that it is not easy. I believe that if he is a good guy and he treats you well, that your parents will come around. But if he's a totally ass, disrespectful,etc. they'll never like him or any other black guy you date. Keep in mind that the first guy you date outside of your race kinda set a president for the rest. Like i said they'll come around if he's stellar unless their turely wholeheartly against interracial dating. And I don't think being against interracial dating automatically means your a racist because i have sister that will never date outside of our race, but has never once said i shouldn't, it's a matter of preference. One thing i will say is, Why limit yourself to one race of people? you can learn so much more when your willing to be open. Me, I've learned how to hunt hogs, bass fish, and a lot of other things that black people typically don't do and i love the both of them. So don't knock it until you try it!!!
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I forgot, acdc is only saying these things to get a rise out of everyone, believe me i've came across a lot of people like him in the last couple of years. Don't entertain it. P.S. ACDC is actually one of my favorite bands along with Green Day,and Guns and Roses. Bet you didn't think a black girl would listen to that type of music did you acdc??You would be surprise.Don't be a jackass all your life!!!!
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I'd probably ignore my parents until they were ready to be reasonable. I'd lecture them (always fun to do to your parents, lol) about the pointlessness of the issue and how they're being unreasonable. Of course, I personally don't have this problem or your parents so it's hard to say. I like who I like, and I don't have a problem with any race. I think that I do more often like people from certain groups, but that's basically just because of the people that make up the population of this area.If you do really like him, then you have to make that clear with your parents and try to help them get over their phobia or awkwardness towards the situation.
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no i was serious but like amanda sead it is pink thread thats y i wasn't try to be too much of a asshole in the beggining until black man sead something sead something and yes alot of black ppll listen to rock doesn't mean i'm going to like them anymore its just give me a better chance to beat the shit out of them in a mosh pit