Long story short, my past love and I broke up 2 months ago cause he said he didn't want to be with me anymore and no longer loves me. The strain of the long term relationship also had a major affect ( I go to college 3000miles away for 8 months out of a year). I was devestated and heart broken, beggin him back and all the usual stuff. After a month I got over it, and was happy that we broke up cause I deserved better, someone more on my level, who isn't 2 years behind me in school (he's still in high school), someone that I wasnt' always fighting with. I was happy with being single and scoping out other guys, but it hurt to remember him and the dreams of our engagement and having his kids. Then last week when I was home I went to go see him. He told me he still loves me and he made a big mistake that something in him forced him to do. That he was sorry for hurting me and hated himself for it all. He wants me back. I don't know if I should. My heart isn't for dating him, nor is it for letting him go. He makes me happy and I do have fun around him. But I feel like were going to go back to the same unhealthy relationship we had. Almost everything in me is telling me to let him go, to just be his friend. And the rest of me says give him another chance. I don't know if I still love him, but if I go back out with him, I know time will cure that and I'll fall again. I come to a conclusion on whether or not to date him again and then when i get on the phone with him, I question him about what happened in our relationship. I feel that if I move on, I would be making a big mistake. But it could be for the best that I do that, even if it hurts both of us. But I could say yes and get my heart broken again and drag out a relationship that should of stoped a long time ago.
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Giving him a second chance
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Leave him be. You're obviously questioning whether to go back to him or not...that means your heart really isn't in it. It's time to move on.
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If you say you deserved better, then you probably do. It sounds to me like when you have time to think about it rationally you are glad the relationship is over, but when talking to him personally, in the heat of the moment, you want some areas of the relationship back and question yourself. Remember, if you get back with him, you get all of him back, not just his I'm sorries and I love you's, but the fights as well. In remembering every aspect of the relationship, if its not worth it all, I wouldn't try again
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I have to agree with Amanda, if your even questioning going back with him then I think its clear that you really don't need him in your life anymore.Reading your post you sound like, you have moved on, don't go back, move forward
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In reply to:If you say you deserved better, then you probably do. It sounds to me like when you have time to think about it rationally you are glad the relationship is over, but when talking to him personally, in the heat of the moment, you want some areas of the relationship back and question yourself. Remember, if you get back with him, you get all of him back, not just his I'm sorries and I love you's, but the fights as well. In remembering every aspect of the relationship, if its not worth it all, I wouldn't try again WELL SAID!!!!!