Something interesting that was brought up in a discussion in english class, about how in modern day society there're so many people who don't make any attempt whatsoever to make relationships work. This really made me think. I know far too many people who don't seem to take a relationship as seriously or with as much dedication as I would (I know I'm still in high school, so that will change to a certain degree). One of the more interesting points was about arranged marriage, and how in a situation like that the two people would often learn to love each other if they didn't beforehand and they would make it work. Today, so many people throw away troublesome relationships and give up on love so easily.Just something I wanted to share, I thought it was an eye opener to the way many people seem to perceive relationships. Gives a look at one of the things that seems to be degrading over time in our society.
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Dedication fading over the years
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It's hard to say if it is degrading now or not. There are so many people here who do try, who are not shallow, that I see a lot of scope for optimism, that things are on the way up again.
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Just my own observation: We live in a throw-away society. A product of wealth and a prosperous society. Don't like something? Throw it away and be done with! Overwhelmed with bills? Declare bankruptcy. Don't like your job? Dump it. You don't like your toys? Throw them away too! The same thing goes with relationships and marriage. Our laws make it too easy to divorce. Just pay the money and you move on. The U.S. has one of the highest divorce rates in the world. Some states are enacting laws ,to require couples to persue counciling, before they can petition for a divorce.One observation that is apparent: People are now waiting longer to enter into marriage. I feel that maturity plays the biggest role, in a relationship. I waited, until I was 48, to get married. I had many opportunities but one thing always stuck in my mind. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this person?Wake up every day and interact with the same person? Man, that would stop me dead in my tracks and make me think. I have a very wonderful relationship now. We think alike and she's my best friend, confidant and incredible lover! We are so wrapped up in each other that sometimes the rest of the world doesn't exist. Perfect no but she makes my world wonderful. Five years, of marriage later and I will never give her up. Sorry for rambling.
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On the other hand, in the past, people, mainly women stayed in a bad, abusive, voilent relationships cos they felt they had to!I think we are just swinging the other way, and in time there will be a balance
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That's true as well, and it's a good thing that changed.
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I agree that people now days give up on relationships too easy. I know tons of people who say they 'love' this person, but throw away the relationship when it starts to get tough. A lot of people act first and think later when it comes to relationships, and I think it's far too easy for people to give up on marriages and file for divorce. It's quiet sad.
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It all just boils down to really getting to know each other and maturity.Love is really just an extreme infatuation and used too loosely. Think before you leap ,into a potentially abusive relationship. Nobody, has the knowledge to predict what will happen! It all takes time and a person needs to look within themselves to be absolutely sure.Yes, people change over time because of current circumstances but that is no excuse to abuse the other partner. Be absolutely sure and please take your time.