I am so angry and disgusted. I found out New Year's Day (what a way to bring in 2005!) that he's been cheating on her for over three years!!! I can't even look at him. I want to throw up. Doesn't he relize that he cheated on the whole family?! This is something that happens to other people, you know? Knowing it happened to me makes it even more devastating.
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Found out Dad's Cheatin' on Mom...
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I can't say that I personaly know how you feel because I don't, but what I can say is I hope everything turns out alright for you and your family. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this, but I'm sure that things will be alright in the end. No one should have to be put through something like that, and I'm sorry that you are.
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Does your mother know about this?
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Yeah, she knows. The lady called my mom, basically bragging to her that she had been with her husband. My mom is trying to pretend that she's OK, but if I'm hurting, then I KNOW she's hurting too.
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I'm sorry to hear this, it musn't be easy for you. I know this won't be the easiest thing to do, but maybe you can talk to your mum, perhaps it could ease things slightly? Perhaps not doing so might keep things slightly awkward? Sorry i haven't been in a situation like this before, but just wanna try help :frowning: hope things work out
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Aww im soo sorry, i hope things get better
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I had the same thing happeni was younger at the time so it wasnt as hard but still- even tho i was little i couldnt understand why my dad was doing it. My parents got divorced and after- you really get to know why they did it- for me my dad told me the truth when i was 14
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same thing w me. my father cheated on my mom for ages when i was younger. it's something you are going to have to deal w your whole life. i know i have.
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I'm sorry this has happened to you. That really sucks. My dad cheated on my mom but that was the kind of guy he was when they got married and she knew it. So I'm not upset about it. That isn't all that helpful to you. It may help you to feel better if you think of your parents as humans. They aren't perfect even though we'd like them to be. They make all kids of mistakes. Even big ones. Try not to internalize this. He was seeing another woman, not another kid. This doesn't have anything to do with you. This is about your parents and their short comings not yours. I'm really curious to know how you found out. Because that in and of itself is a bigger problem than the affair. There is no reason that a child should be brought into this type of problem. There is NO reason you should be told about this. Anyway, go and talk to your parents about this. Hopefully they will be able to help you understand what's going on. People don't usually have affairs when everything in a marriage is perfect. It may help you to know what caused the break down. Which you shouldn't know anything about, but since you do, you need to be helped to understand why.Big hugs!jmo
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I knew for two and a half years that my mum was cheating on my dad. Even threatoned one b/f with a shotgun and the other (the current one) I went for with a crowbar.It's going to be tough on you during this time... there are going to be a lot of changes in your life, but if you need somewhere to vent out, please feel free to come here.
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I am sorry to hear about that. I was in the same situation as you as a child, worst yet, my father left us for another woman and I've never forgiven him since then. I think your situation is a bit hopeful though because he was still with you. There is a chance your parent's marriage could be saved. This woman your father having an affair with does'nt sound nice if she even had to call your mum to brag about that affair, surely her motives is all but to ruin your family, and in this time of crisis your family needs most to stay stronger. Your father is not perfect, if he was a good man, you should not let that one call leave your family shattered. I always hear from the wiser people (old ones) that there's always a time that comes to human being (particularly men) that they succumb to temptation, and we should be ready for that. In my situation, I lived with anger because I was robbed of a chance to grow up with a supervising father. In your case, as long as your father stays with you, each member of your family should contribute something to keep the family intact. Understanding, love and patience is necessary specially at this time.