my friend and my guy friend have known eachother for about 2 years. they have never showed any emotional intrest in eachother outside of being friends. my guyfriend is just this really horny guy most of the time and cant wait to lose his virginity. my friend doesn't care (she says she'll loose it to some random guy anyways so why not her friend?) anyway, she told me about it and i was really uncomfortable. they're planning a "yes, i have speech and debate this week..." type of thing. she's not on any birth control and they want the first time to be unprotected. i told her that unprotected sex had a lot more risks than just pregnancy and she swears they'll use condoms after the first time. they're both virgins and haven't done much sexually (no fingering, oral, etc.). is it possible for them to still get std's without having ANY other partners? also, can they buy condoms or will they have to have her older brother do it? (they're 14/15 and her brother is in his early 20's) please reply i'm really worried about them!!!
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Really nervous
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In my opinion 14 and 15 year olds have no business having sex. I think they're making a big mistake, and having unprotected sex the first time is the first indicator that they have no idea what they are getting themselves into. Nevermind stds, what about pregnancy? These kids need to lay off the sex. As far as condoms goes they are old enough to buy them.
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I dont think they should be having sex either but if they are they should really use a condom weather they are virgins or not and you dont have to be a certain age to buy condoms so they can do it themselves. And tell your "girl"friend that she should have more selfrespect for herself than do just lose it on just any guy. It should at least be someone she likes or is in "lust" with if shes going to so it that young.
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I'd have to agree with Amanda on this one. That is a really young age to be having sex, especially unprotected. It could not only cause an unwanted pregnancy, in which case all their friends and parents would learn what happened, but pregnancy or not the emotional attatchments created with a sexual partner are hard to overcome if they are just friends and aren't planning on staying together. It would be best to save for marriage when you're ready for a commitment like that, but if not that then they should at least wait until they are more emotionally stable and mature. That's a very awkward age to be in.
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i think they are way to young as well, but no matter what i say to her (she told me and he thinks she's keeping it a secret) they aren't going to stop. i've told her to heave more self respect and to wait but she wont. still about the std thing... if they haven't had any other partners are they still at risk for any std's?