So, I've been experienced for a while. I've been with 3 girls in the past and done everything but sex (vaginal or anal), so basically up to 3rd base and oral both ways. Anyways, I'm trying to have sex for the first time. Here's how it happened today. We were in bed for around 1.5 hours and we were just fooling around, foreplay back and forth, oral, etc. Normally I don't have a problem getting hard, and why would I? Anyways the girl I'm with now really hot, no doubt about it. But it seems like right after she gets me hard, I can't even take the time to get the condom on and start doing the deed before I go limp. This happened twice tonight. I don't know why. Maybe it was because of the past 1.5 hours of fooling around and I just got tired. I really tried focusing on getting hard, looking at her, old porn flicks from memory... after all if its my first time I want it to be good. No dice.So what the hell is wrong? or should I just wait till next time to see if this is just a freak chance of being in bed too long, or if it's actually a problem?
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Hard right up until sex...
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For most men putting on a condom will make you go somewhat limp. But you can just have her(or you) get it up again. It's also possible for the woman to put on the condom with her mouth and that can probably keep you hard.
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Think it's a good idea to practice first getting it on/off before trying it in the sack?
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I guess it wouldn't hurt to practice, but there's nothing to putting one on. Just remove it from the package and be sure you've got it turned the right way. They let her unroll it. Be sure to pinch to tip to leave the reservoir for the semen so you don't blow out the end when you cum.
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I had the same problem my first couple of times putting on a condom. I would put it on and then get so nervous that I would go instantly limp. The girl was incredibly understanding and she recommended to me a couple ideas:1) First, don't be nervous about it. Nervousness killed many a stiffy in my first couple attempts.2) Have her put on the condom for you, either by hand or mouth (usually hand b/c girls I've been with dislike the taste of condoms)3) A weird one: This girl mentioned that maybe once or twice by yourself you should try masturbating with a condom on. I tried it a couple times as per her advice, it feels somewhat weird, at first. But it helps you mentally associate putting on and wearing a condom with sex (i know this sounds absurdly obvious, but for some it isn't). It helped me in a way take the asexual and unnatural practice of putting one on and associate it with an erection. Now i don't have a problem with losing an erection when i see a condom, in fact, I sometimes gain one unwrapping a condom from the package! (putting one on = getting sex in the very near future).Hope these options help!
