what i want to know, is when can you call a relationship.. a relationship?eg girl at work says she went out on a date with some guy, but they arent bf / gf yet. it has to go on longeranother girl at work says that you have to spend every weekend with them for about a month before you can say you are bf / gf.what are your views?
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When does it become official?
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When I talk about it with a girl and we establish that we have the bf/gf title is when it's official. I find putting a time limit on the whole thing is rediculous.
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I believe on the importance of courtship. No one assumes you're in a relationship unless you both agreed to it. A lot of my friends considers having M.U. (Mutual understanding) where you did'nt have to talk about it, but you considered you're in a relationship, but that always leave you in a hanging situation not really knowing what's going on. My first boyfriend courted me for 18 months, he needed to prove himself to me yet before I agreed that we could be steady. My current boyfriend had been my friend for two years, there was no formal courtship but we knew we like each other, and then he asked me if someday I'd want to marry him and I said 'yes', so that's it, I am committed to him with that simple word 'yes', and it was official.
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shouldn't you be asking your significant other/fuck buddy this question?
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The last relationship I was in we didn't use the words boy friend/girl friend for a long time (granted we only dated each other), and always introduced each other as our "really good friend". And then one day he gave me a ring and said "This is a me and you thing okay. I'm giving you this ring because you've always been there for me when I needed someone, and also because we're goning to get married one of these days." Then he slipped it on my fingure and hugged me and from then on we concidered our selfs bf/gf or engaged(ms?)(well at least until we broke up lol) But I agree with Sleepingbeauty, basically you have to have a mutual understanding with one another, and if you concider yourselves together, then you guys are together. You don't have to have a title for your relationship to make it official, if you feel you're together, then you are.
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I think theres a big difference in England and other parts, especially America. We don't really do the whole dating thing. We usually meet people through friends, or friends we know for a long time and then ask them if they want to go "out with you" if they accept, then the relationship begins.
We don't seem to have the same confusion over how many dates constitutes the start of a relationship etc.
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Uhhh.... yeah i don't know where the hell all these people are living that this is going on... What i figured was that you ask someone if they will "go out with you". that's how it normally is in america. You go on dates once you've been dating.
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What about getting to know someone before actually being together? That's why I date. Otherwise, if I try to get to know a girl without going out on a date she automatically thinks of me as a friend.
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umm I live in the UK and my man and I dated for a while before he referred to me as his gf.. he never actually did the whole "will you go out with me" thing which seems so common in the UK, and I'm glad of it! We got to know eachother first and it was just right that we were together
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Well, when I used to date I would let them know I was interested, then talk on the phone, hang out. I don't like rushing into anything so I would just chill then ask them to be with me. It bit me in the ass one time, this girl that I was liking said I took too long to ask her out so she moved on. I'm glad I didn't though, guess we would have broken up anyway.