Abortion

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Would it bother you guys if your girlfriend had an abortion? My girlfriend was pregnant (before I was seeing her) and she had an abortion, almost couldn't do it because they thought she was 4 months in. It really seems to bother me and I can't get over the fact that she would be so stupid as to not use any protection at all. And the fact that she almost couldn't have the abortion scares me even more. I don't know what I would do if she had to have a kid, if we would even be...

How do you think you would react if your girlfriend told you that she had an abortion in the past?

Since my sister has had an abortion, I realized that love is stronger than something they've done. I don't agree with abortion, but if my girl had an abortion before I ever got into a relationship with her, then I'd have to leave it in the past. People change and an abortion can change someone a lot. It's best for you to let it be left in the past and try to help her not be in that situation again.

Like Web said, you can't really change the past. But it would bother me a lot... considering I'm pretty anti-abortion.

I was leaning more towards pro-choice for awhile, and i still am in certain cases. Recently a friend of mine had an abortion and I honestly can't look her in the eye anymore. Looking at her discusts me because of what she did. She wasn't raped or anything, she just doesn't like the use of condoms and pretty much thought hey why not an abortion. If i were to date a girl that has had one I would want to no why they did. If they were raped or some extreme cercumstance i would overlook it, if its because of there own careless behavior then i would not do that. ALthough you should not hold someones past really against them a few things are life decisions and by making the decisions they realized they had to face the consequences. If it was unsafe sex just for the hell of it who knows what disease they may be carring, you have to be worried enough about that when using protection. Its just a bad life style and although it may just be one decision it really portrays a big aspect of there personality.

WEll its not like we are close friends, just one of those people i hang out with when i make plans with someone else and they are there but seeing them so much gets u talking every once in awhile. I've never spoke my opinion publicly this is just what i think, i've told about 3 or 4 people tho that its how i felt. I don't see why i shouldn't be hard on her, even if its not because of the abortion but the lifestyle in general. Sex all the time without condoms and getting high and then not telling the next person that she has an STD. That is dispicible to me, and if i girl didn't tell me that she had an STD that she new about b4 i got with her i would so so physotic i dont no what i would do.

Are you certain she did not use protection? Maybe the condom tore. The pill is not 100% safe. Anyway, everyone has their level of tolerance of their lover's past. If my current gf knew of my past, she would be on the other side of the country by now. You have to either accept and forget or move on.