I get to nervous around girls that I like, I end up doing stupid things.How can I overcome this problem and be able to speak to a girl in a mature a confident manner?
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I have a problem
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you get used to it. dont back away because you're nervous. If you have a problem controlling yourself or wahtever. well, try to avoid doing things that you consider stupid. You'll learn over time.
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explain more..what kinds of stupid things do you do?. How old are you?
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I believe everyone goes through this. A lot of guys aren't confident in theirselves and women can see that. Just be yourself, if a girl doesn't like that, then it's a waste of time.
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I'm 19 and I would rather not go into the stupid things I do =/
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I would say a girl worth having will be understanding that you're nervous and won't hold it against you.
Unless you're doing really stupid things like implying she's slutty
or something like that. In which case I would say you're more sabotaging the relationships than just being nervous. -
Set it in your mind, "don't do stupid stuff, don't do stupid stuff". When you're talking to a girl, ask yourself, "is this stupid" before you say or do it. It will get easier and easier with each successful encounter and eventually you won't have to tell yourself this.
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I always act stupid in front of people I know, and I hate it. I want to make people laugh or break the awkward silences, but I do the stupidest things sometimes, and then when I realize it and stop... I feel so self concious about what I did and hate myself for it. Then again, being completely myself would be like being a secluded social hermit, and that's not what I want. I'm trying to act like myself while socializing more than I used to, even though it's hard for me.Try to keep a mental reminder of how your actions will be perceived, and try to look at your thoughts from another point of view.