A Problem....

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I've had sex with two different girls. The first one was when I was 15 and I was just horny. I only lasted around 2-3 minutes tops. Now I have been with the same girl for about two years now. We have been having sex for about a year and a half. When we have sex If I'm really into it I won't last more than 5 minutes. She has found a way to get herself an orgasm, which is riding me, but it isn't as fun this way. Everytime I get her to try different positions I end up hurting her. I can't last very long at all, I have tried many different techniques but I just can't get it down. Another thing, I do believe the 2nd orgasm last longer, but she usually gets out of the moment. I will try to lick her while I wait, but she wants to get right back to the sex. I try to finger her, but she says after she has had me in her, the hand just doesn't measure up. I want to have sex for long periods of time without buying 20 dollar books or buying pills. If anyone could help... thanks..

this is a very common problem but it might no be what you think. Orgasim Goal oriented sex can be destracting. Overthinking the O can destract one from the O!Try different things, masterbate together so you can see what works for each of you. It's a learning curve!

I've tried things like thinking math problems in my head to distract myself of how great it is so I won't orgasm as quick, but that doesn't work either. She doesn't make me feel any better when she gets up and doesnt say anything after she doesnt get an orgasm. It pisses me off and makes me self concient at the same time. I've tried talking to her, and she says don't worry about it, but I know she is getting aggrevated.

hi matei know what you mean - i have tried to think of boring stuff to help me distract and help me from comming to quick but when you're horny its very difficult to hold back.if it is getting your gf annoyed try and speak to her one on one to discuss your worries to hear... i hope she does understand.

I can say over the past year sex has gotten a lot better, but I want to be at my best, I guess it will take time. Does the PC muscle, or the stop and go methods really work? I've tried, but never really believed them enough them to work on it.

apparently if you do strengthen your PC muscles it can help you have better control. it has gotten better for me since i first started , but i always last alot longer after the first orgasm.

Try having her give you head first, and also you make her orgasm before sex..this should give both of you a little more time and relax her muscles and make her wet so you wont be "hurting" her as much when you try different positions..If you cum after 5 minutes and she only wanst to ride you then talk to her about it..maybe when you're about to cum have her stop moving and rub her clit for a few minutes..then go at it again..keep repeating it until you are ready to orgasm.

Well I cant speak from experience, but I have heard a few things that could help. Maybe try jacking off first, after you cum you will be able to last longer. Or I heard something about when feel that you are about to cum, pull out and squeeze the head, thats supposed to stop you from cumming early. Hope that helped.

If her being on top doesn't get you there it sounds perfect. Let her be on top and then after she has hers, switch to new position and you have yours. This doesn't really seem like a problem too me. Unless you don't care if she has one and are only consumed by your own what’s the problem?

Don't get me wrong, I like it when she is on top. I just want to switch it up. It's like the same thing over and over. I just like change.