I'm 13 and I'm in puberty for 'bout 2 years now. And whenever I want to get aroused, I always imagine me and a (hot) girl doing something. But since last year I've seen a girl, which is on my school (but in one class higher). I can't even think about going over to her and begin a conversation, I'm even to afraid to look at her for longer then a second. And the weirdest thing is: I can't even imagine her in my mind. I automaticly like 'block' her out of my arrousal thoughts, 'cause she is worth to much for that. I thinks she looks very good, but she is not one of the popular girls on school. It's so weird, I've never talked to her before but still I have such a weird feeling, and I've NEVER had that before (not even with a girlfriend)
What Does This Mean??!!
Well, it might just be an infatuation, sometimes girls can just take over every thought in your head and it gives the effect of having "real" feelings for them. Of course, on the other hand, you might just really like her, a lot.
If you want to approach her I suggest that the first thing you do is to stop thinking so highly of her. Now, I don't mean mistreat her, just remember that the higher the pedistool that you put her on, the harder it is to reach her.
<b>The Word of God - <i>Surprisingly indistinguishable from one's own personal opinion.</i></b>
Just remember..she's a human too. You're intrigued by the way she looks and acts..so if she's that interesting to you, go talk to her.
People come, people go.
I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to chicken to go to her x.x
Look i was in your same position and you kno wwhat it screwed me over. In freshman year of high school i had a maaaad crush on this girl and i would never talk to her because i was chicken. Well guess what, i finally grew some balls by junior year and it was to late because she had a bf, but the worst part of all was that i found out she used to like me alot to when i liked her. SO THAT PISSED ME OFF. good thing though is what i learned from all of this. You see life is to short to hold back from something you want, whether it be women or nething else in life. As far as woman, whats the big deal, they r human to and for all u know she might be thinkin the same thing you are. Just get over it and go for it! whats the worst that can happen, ull either never see her again, and if u do i doubt very much that shell think ne less of u becauseu talked to her. If you want u could always just talk to her n start talkin to her more n more without actualyl askin her out right away. I dont wanna sound harsh with what i said but my point is to no tcare so much about what everyone else thinks, your here to do what YOU want and if neone think stheyll get in the way of that well then screw them, its your life not theirs. Did that help? lol
But she also isn't in the same year as me, I'm 100% sure that she's older, but I'm not sure how many years, I'm guessing only one, since in the beginning I thought we were the same age. And this age diffrence makes it even MORE difficult, since the only way I'll ever see her is on the play ground.
And I understand what you're saying, and I totally understand that it teached you a lesson, but you know... It doesn't change my chicken-like me
Its infatuation like whatever said that. Anyways. Maybe she reminds you of someone like your mom in some degree(gross but yea). Did u like her because she swayed her hair a certain way and it just made her look like a goddess. trust me in a year or so...maybe shorter you'll be like she's pretty but w/e.
calling yourself chicken is not going to help, so stop doing it right away
the only way you're going to get the guts is by stepping out of your comfort zone and forcing yourself to do something
if she rejects you, then move on and know you didnt miss an oppurtunity. and you can stop wondering about her!
if she she takes a fancy to you too, then you're in for a thrill.
you have alot to win and nothing to lose. you even have someting to 'win' if she rejects you
and age doesnt matter too much, its maturity
i'm with an older girl atm... but i guess once your over 20 it doesnt make that much of a difference
good luck and plz, step out of ur comfort zone, -take action!
Look at it this way. What's the worst that could happen? That she tells you to get lost? Then you're in the same position that you are now..without her, but you know where you stand. The best that could happen?
Maybe at least you'll make a new friend.