The guy I'm dating asked me how long it's been since I've had an orgasm. After thinking about it, I realize it's been about a year. I've had boyfriends who tried, but I usually just faked it which is silly of me, I know. He has made it his mission to give me an orgasm and I promised myself and him that I will not fake. Thus far we have stuck to fingering (5 occasions) without the desired result.
He tells me the same thing that my last boyfriend told me. "You are REALLY tight." I wonder if that has anything to do with my inability to come. I don't think I should be all that tight because I am naturally flexible and enjoy yoga. Although, I haven't done much mastrabation myself for quite awhile.
Another factor that may come into play is that since moving into this apartment, I have had sinus allergies. Would this affect my ability to detect pheromones and thus impaired ability to orgasm?
Out of frustration, I finally broke down and made time to play with myself this afternoon. I've never been able to get an orgasm by my own hands and have been thinking about getting a vibrator (i never bothered to replace my last one when it broke), but I don't want to rely on a B.O.B. for every orgasm :frowning:
What I discovered while playing is that sometimes I really am tight...but sometimes I'm rather relaxed down there. I tried situating my body differently and used a couple relaxation techniques, but nothing was consistent. It was like my pussy was opening and tightening on its own whim.
I'm frustrated. He's frustrated. I need some feedback or advise or something. It'd all be very much appreciated.
-
Some help please
-
I don’t know to much about the female anatomy being a guy of 17. I do jack off a lot and what I find is this that being relaxed is the best way to go. It also helps if you look forward to having an orgasm, rather then just seeing it as an outcome of a sexual experience. Now the best way in my opinion to become relaxed and have fun is be alone and be in a hot bath. Just my opinion, hope it helps.Zero
-
i think the best way to orgasm is the clit, just stroke it, better still get him to lick/suck it, it works like a charm and do replace your vibrator hunny i dont know how u can live without one!