First of all, anyone with any info for me that would help ease my mind will be greatly appreciated. My problem is this. I am 20 and still holding the v-card. That's not the problem. Granted, I have "messed around" with one of my ex's, but that's been almost 3 years ago and it never went farther than oral. The problem is that often when I get an erection, it's accompanied by pain in my testes. Along with being a virgin, I recently(a month and a half or so) quit masturbating for religious convictions. Granted, I still stumble and give in to temptaion on occassion. Along with the pain that's often there, it seems as though there is something blocking the ejaculate from exiting my body. It's almost like a blockage that causes extreme pressure to build up until the semen finally dribbles out. I am fairly sure with my sexual history it's not an STD or anything like that, but I have struggled with urinary tract and bladder infections in the past. I also drink a large amount of pop. I don't know whether this has any correlation to my symptoms or is just a coincidence, but any help on this matter would greatly put my mind at ease. It's sad to say but I'm terrified to see a doctor for fear of embarassment and what could possibly come out of it. Please help!
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Deeply Troubled
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The "blockage" could be a psychological thing resulting from the conflicting feelings. The pain could be psychological too, or it might be "blue balls".
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Yea im definetely gonna go with blue balls on that one. If you go that long without ejaculating then of course itll hurt man. Dont u feel really stressed to? like very jumpy around people. Thats how i get, i get alot of anxiety n im just a ticking time bomb. But thats me iono if that how you feel. And the v-card is awesome. I give u alot of props man there rnt to many people out there nemore like that. as far as the holding off on masturbating, i dont know what the bible n stuff says about it, but if thats what u feel u have to do then i say go for it.
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Let me add a different perspective than this. First of all, the statement that a 20 year old man isn't supposed to go a month or even a week without orgasm is completely erroneous. You could go 2 years without sex or masturbation with no negative consequences. Your body knows how to take care of itself (absorbing semen, wet dreams, etc.) If you're experiencing pain or other symptons, it certainly is NOT from lack of orgasms.As far as being a 20 year old virgin, I say good for you! It's not weird or even uncommon. I know many guys your age who are making the same decision and are very happy about it. IT's not easy. I know that. Heck, I know a guy who is 42 years old and a virgin. He's a good looking guy, popular, chicks dig him, he's straight, wants to be married soon, even wants sex...but is making the decision to not have sex until he's married.I say kudos to you (and go see a doctor)
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I forgot to add...
Here is another forum where you might go for information and encouragement. It's basically a forum dedicated to men who are abstaining from masturbation (mostly in order to have a wet dream). Instead of having your decisions called into question, you'll be encouraged. There are also some men there who are good at answering medical questions. It's not as active as this board, but it's a good forum. -
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I was with a guy recently who got an erection and then started groaning. When i asked what was wrong, he said it's common for him to get a pain with his erection if he doesn't do anything about it.I was suprised by this so I asked around and a lot of my friends suffer the same thing, and some female friends have backed up their claims with guys they've been with.So i thought it was quite common, on the verge of normal, is it not?
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maybe cause i've never really have gone too long without sex. but i always asumed that blue balls ( what missy is talking about) was just a cheap shot at trying to get some play from a girl that wasn't putting out....it seems that gay guys would have the same problem so any gay guys out there please lemme know if you have ever got blue balls...id just like to try to dispell this myth...not to say that blue balls isn't a real condition. if it is i just thank god i never went thru this.as for the original post sometimes a testicle can get twisted around so that the lil tube that goes from the testicle to the urethra can get twisted. that can cause pain. go see a doctor if you think its serious. because generaly speaking the longer someone waits to see a doctor about a problem. the worse it will get.
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oooh THAT'S what blue balls is? I never knew the name for it, sorry
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"Twisted testicle" is different - there is continual severe pain, and it's a medical emergency - if it's not fixed in a matter of hours you can lose the testicle.
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I get really hot if I dont ejaculate for a month or so, everything starts looking dull, and I touch myself and don't realise I'm doing it, I don't know about religious things, or the blue balls, but I couldn't stand it, maybe you should try just like get a girlfriend (not in an insulting way), just to sort it out, u could end up with psycological problems which might even lead to impotence (I read it in a book)!!!! P.S. YES I CAN READ
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quit masturbating for religious convictions
there is your first and only problem