How do you get over your ex

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Well Valentine's Day is coming up and all I'd really like to do is stick Cupid's bow and arrows up his skinny ass. Valentine's Day is the day that my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and here lately all I can do is cry. I miss him so much and yet I hate him. All I really want to do is get over him but I can't figure out how. I find myself laying in bed thinking about him and I always end up getting out of bed, going to my jewlry box and putting on 'his' ring that he gave me and I put on the neckless he gave me as well. Then I crawl back in bed and hold the stuffed dog that he gave and just cry because I miss him so much, We went through so much and he just dropped me after all the time that I was there for him. My question is, how can I get over him?!? I'm tired of hurting and I'm tired of longing for the broken promises of the past.

awwww poor baby, I'm sorry to hear that you are heartbroken. The only advice I can give is the advice that worked for me. I know it sounds cheesy, but time heals all wounds. I remember having those same emotions, hating somebody so much, and at the same time missing them too. Just give it some time. I remember I would think of my ex EVERY morning when I woke up, then one day, I didn't. You just gotta find other things to do. When you find yourself laying in bed thinking of him, get up, go out, do something. Things will get better :wink:

How about finding someone else. It works for me everytime!

Finding someone else is easier said than done AverageJoe. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to find someone else, but it's not always easy letting go of someone that you really loved. I'd give anything to meet the man that'll make all my dreams come true... but before I can meet him, I've got to get over someone else. I just wish there was a way to forget, but I guess time is all I've got, and I have all the time in the world I guess.

it takes time.

I'm sorry to hear you're so down hun. I think we've all been there and it sux, hey.If you really want to get over him, you've got to get rid of the ring, the necklace, the teddy - all the stuff that reminds you of him. If you can't bring yourself to burn it in a huge fuck-off bonfire, just put it all in a box and put the box in storage or in the back of a cupboard somewhere. Honestly, wearing his jewellery isn't going to help you sweety.Also, when you find yourself missing him or thinkign about all the good times you had together, remind yourself of what an ass he was for dumping you or other times when he was being an idiot. He's a male- I'm sure there are plenty (No offense guys)Finally, get out of the house. Go for a walk, go to the gym, go out with friends, draw, paint, immerse yourself in a good book, take up boxing - do whatever it is that makes you feel good. Do what you love doing. Celebrate being young and free and all of that.Good luck

As I sat here reading all of these posts (by-the-way, thanks you guys), I got to thinking of him and I just stopped and wondered, why am I sitting here feeling so down over a person that doesn't even care how I feel about him or anyone else? Why am I sitting here crying and longing for the past when my future lies ahead of me and all I have to do is step out of the shadows of yesterday and into the light of tomorrow? I realise that I looked at the world through rose colored lenses while I dated him, and when he took them off for me, my entire world shattered. Now that I look back on that day, I'm glad that he did break up with me (although it still hurts, I'm glad), because I was thinking with my heart, and not with my mind. My heart was so ready to throw caution to the wind and just jump right into something that I know now would not have lasted more than a year or two (we were supposed to be married in June of last year for those of you who didn't know). When you're in a relationship, you always put your heart on the line, I did and I got burned... but that's okay. It's a learning experince. I will admit that I still love him, I probably will for the rest of my life, but I'm not willing to repete history with him if I was given the chance. He will always have a spot in my heart, as I'm sure all people have for their first loves, but I'm ready to move on. Thank you guys for all your advice, I really apreciate it ^_^.

good for you katielou!

my boyfriend of two years also just broke up with me....but it made me realize how completely unhappy i was with him. and even though its sad i know we'll never have that special bond between us again...it also feels so exciting to look toward the future and know that ill be with someone who will possibly be with me forever. which is...great. haha

So glad to hear that Katie Lou! It's a great realisation to come to and I'm glad you're feeling more positive today.Good on you

This happened to me recently to and i was having a conversationg with a friend about it and he said, basically, you have to just accept for what it is the more you think about it and try to wonder why it happened the longer it will bring you down... Take life as it comes, striaght no chaser

Well I was doing good about not thinking about him until he came into the place I worked yesterday (which just happend to be his birthday). He just walked up to me and said "I'm sorry to barge in on you like this but I really need someone to talk to" and then he hugged me and started crying and telling me what was wrong while I held him. His grandfather died a week ago and he just got back from Michigan only to find out his best friend's dad died from a drug over dose and he was telling me about all these diffrent problems and I don't know what to do. My heart just broke for him...

Sorry, I was knocked off line before I could finish what I was saying.As I said, my heart broke for him, all those sheilds I had built up against what I felt for him crumbled and just holding him just made me want to cry because it hurt being so close to him. I want to be there for him as a supportive friend, but I'm afraid I'll just fall for him all over again and I just can't go through that sort of pain with him again, it's not worth it. What do I do?

well do you want me to explain it all out.

However much you want to be there for him honey, you need to sort yourself out, even if that means putting some distance between you, emotionally and phsyically. I totally agree with getting rid of all the stuff he gave you, or at least putting it away until you can deal with it. You deserve to be happy again, you sound so down hon, I hope by the time you read this your feeling a little more positive big hugs

So I do this for 3rd time in a week, lol.In order to get over an ex you need to know that it is over. Now I am not sure how it ended in your case, but remember that it came to the point where you two could not be with each other anymore. You unfortunately have to cut your communication for awhile. You have to do this until you have fully made the decision that you are not with him and that means that it is over and it is time to move on. If you are insitent on still talking to him, then ask yourself why. If you say because you care about him, then if you care about him why are you two broken up. Look at yourself and see that you two know it is over and you should take your time to get back into swing of things, but still remember you are done. It is harsh, and the things before were great, but it was the past and this is now, and thinking about what used to be will depress you and prevent you from growing. So move on because you will feel so much better.

Well this morning I boxed all of his stuff up and put it in the back of my closet... jewlery, pictures, stuffed animals, cards, everything that was "us". I was sitting on my bed last night and I was thinking about him and what exactly I felt for him. I know that I love him, but I'm not in love with him anymore... I figured out that I'm just trying to hold on to something that was never there and I can't continue to do that because in the end I'll be the only one that's hurt. So I'll be a supportive friend from a distance, because being up colse and personal for him isn't worth getting burned again no matter what. Thanks you guys for listening to me.

Katie Lou hugs thats a girl