Don't know how to help her

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Hi guys,

OK I have a friend who likes to drink, but when she drinks she gets really, REALLY drunk. And when she gets really REALLY drunk, she just embarrasses herself. She comes onto every guy she sees to the point where they're all laughing at her and calling her a slut behind her back. She gets abusive towards anyone who tries to calm her down, she flashes herself everywhere, and yeah generally just embarrasses herself. If we just let her be and do what she wants she usually ends up in dangerous situations and/or wakes up with a headful of regrets. strangely enough, this doesn't seem to deter her.

My friends and I have tried talking to her about it, we've tried suggesting we all stop drinking and partying so much (Hard when you're 19 and living the student life), we've even tried telling her what people say about her when she's drunk. She just tells us we're bitches and being horrible to her and usually a huge fight starts.

All our other friends have given up on her and I really don't want to as she's stuck by me through a lot of shit, but I honestly don't know how to get through to her. I've tried telling her she's embarrassing herself but she just gets angry at me and tells me I'm a bitch. I'm worried to upset her too much as she's already pretty unstable and cuts herself.

Anyone else been in a similar situation and know of a technique that works?

Sorry this has been so long :scream_cat:

Hmm thing is (damn i forgot to mention in my first post) she's already seeing a counsellor and a psychologist. And she's on anti-depressants. And she's studying psychology.You'd think one of these factors would have helped her by now :/

I know exaclty where you are comming from and the only thing I can tell you is... you can't save her from herself, only she can do that. One of my best friends (that I've known since 2nd grade) is into heavy drugs and she drinks all of the time. She does really stupid things like sleep with guys she doesn't know, says things that she doesn't mean, and acts like a totally diffrent person when she is on all of that crap. I've spent years trying to help her and in the end both of use only end up getting hurt. The only time you can help her is when she actually wants to be helped. Believe me, I know it's hard to see your friend go through that, but there is nothing you can do. I finally told my friend that I love her dearly and that I will be there for her when ever she needs me, but I wont stand around and watch her slowly kill herself with drugs and alcohol, that I just can't do it. I told her that when she decides to sober up, act like a mom to her two year old daughter (long story behind the reason she has a daughter... she was raped but I'm not going into that), then we can talk and hang out again. Until then, I cannot be around her and I told her that. I wish you the best of luck with your friend, I hope she can save herself before it's too late (like I'm afraid that it is for my friend). Good luck.