Hey iom new, and ive been observing this site for a while and i think its awesome how all you guys are helping out each other and sharing experiences. So i decided to finally join!Theres this girl at school i really like, we're friends (not close friends) but we don't really talk much. in fact i find it really hard to talk to her.Every time we talk it lasts for like 20 seconds... and it really kills me when i just see guys that she hardly knows and just come up and start talking with her for AGES.I dont really have that much experience talking to girls, but usually the ones that are my friends like to bring up the conversation and we can usually talk for a ages cause at school we'd have similar intrests.But this girl that i actually like, to me, is so hard to talk to. Half the time im afraid id say something really stupid, even though we're friends.I just want to know, from both guys and girls, what you guys would bring up and talk about when you wanna get closer to someone. I just never know wat to talk about. Any advice would be appreciated.Im 16 btw. And im in 2 of her classes, which she usually sits next to me during both.
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How can i hold a convo?
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In reply to: Half the time im afraid id say something really stupid don't worry about that!relax and be yourself, talk about what you are comfortable with.realise that its only going to work out if she likes you for who you are (the real you), so don't worry about what conversational topics that come upgirls tend to like guys who are comfortable and confident with themselves, and funny.so when you sit with this girl, just be yourself and try to get her to smilei remember when i was 16 i just started sitting next to this stereotypical 'hot' girl and was SOO overconfident with myself (it was more or less an act) and i was able to make her smile and got in her good books...
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Just don't be perverted(if she isn't like that) or say a cheap joke..or bash on someone...yea thats pretty much all you can say thats stupid or offensive! I think you should just practice with other girls...lol. See how it works out when you're talking. If she's your friend then it should be a lot easier. Just say hi to start out. Ask non short answer questions. Tell her a little anecdote(try to find or make one funny). Just think of her as a guy(its hard...especially since you like her lol)
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Don't say something stupid like, "Hey, nice boobs". Although I have said that before, I'm known to be a silly person and people know that I'm joking, but unless you are that kinda person, and she is too, don't say it.I know that that seems completely irrelivant, but its still something that you should keep at the back of your mind.
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haha. yea, im not the type of person to go off and say "nice boobs" or something similar. I'm actually a bit shy. I' would like to eventually complement her everynow and then, but once again i wouldn't noe wat to say without it sounding awkward.I cant really think of non-short questions, can i have some e.gs?Most of the stuff i usually ask is like, "How was ur weekend?" and usually ends up with me going like, "Oh, thats cool" or "Really, did u enjoy w/e?" before i go totally blank....From the girls, what type of things do you like to talk about? Or what type of questions do you liked to be asked so that you can discuss?And from the guys, what type of stuff do you like to ask when you want to know someone better?Sometimes i just cant think of anything to talk about ...Thanx for all ur advice so far guys. I'd like to hear more from you all.
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Omg, someone I can relate to, lol. I feel exactly this way. It's not until recently I started talking to a girl that I like for any extended period of time, and the only reason that happened is because I've walked home with her a couple of times. I'm still struggling with knowing what to say when I'm around her. I guess the biggest problem is knowing what she'll be interested in and just thinking of something - anything to say. I don't know if this is also the case with you, but my mind draws a blank when I try to think of something to say. I also have a tendency of blurting out the first thing on my mind when I'm nervous, rather than saying hi, when I first say something to someone. I'm not sure what advice to give you, because I have the same problem. I guess the best thing though is to just try to be yourself and try to look at what you say and do through her eyes. She would probably just want to talk to the real you, and without any negative talk about something or someone.
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just talk.hahah
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I have this problem with a girl I like also and I just try and ask her questions about her and like what she did this weekend or what shes doing this weekend and if she's not doing anything ask her if she wants to hang out or go see a movie or something. Don't just compliment her out of the blue it will usually cause an awkward moment instead if a siduation comes up where you can throw in a compliment without it sounding bad go ahead. but ya just as the others said you have to be comfident whith your self, not cocky, but think that you can get her.
