I could really do with some advice, there's this guy ive known for a few years, the past few months we have been sleeping together- kind of like friends with benefits, only now i think i like him alot more than what i thought, i think about him all the time, recently- even though we still sleep together- hes been a bit distant, sometimes he's over the top friendly and loving and the next he wants to be alone. he's gets jealous if i chat to other lads- why is this if he doesnt want to be with me? do you think he's using me for sex? the other day i slept over at his, he kept telling me that he didnt want me to go, which was sweet, i dont understand what he wants. i really care about him, but i feel like its a waste of time.
What can i do? pretty confused
alright here is the score hardcore.
i was in the exact same situation about a year ago. however, i was the guy (well still am a guy) in the situation. she liked me way more than i liked her. and so forth. in my situation i really didn't care about her like a girlfriend. the sex was good, well, decent, but it was easy sex, but i did care about her as a friend. we hung out loads and had lots of fun, however, once her jealousy started to show up i realized she def had more feelings about it then i did. so i am guessing, but it could be something similar.
hey thanks for the replies but oh noooo it doesnt look good. to the second person who replied- was you at least attracted to this girl? i mean there has have been something there between you right? maybe you are right maybe it is just a sex thing, i tried to stay away from him but after a while he comes back, he says he misses me, sometimes he just likes having me around without having sex (but rarely), i really dont undesterstand him he's a very complicated person. I saw him twice while i was out this week, he didnt say much just watched me all night, its freaky, i wish lads could be more simple.
And they wish we could be more simple.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel <br /><br />
Tell him how you feel. If he likes you great you can move on to something more than fwb. If he isn't into you, you are only prolonging the inevitable and causing yourself much unneeded drama. No guts no glory.
Big, fat, wet, juicy smiles!