Over the past few weeks, I've tried to do a pretty good job of juggling my work, college, and girlfriend. This last week has been an especially good week for her and I. However, due to a certain amount of slacking Ive been doing on my work, mostly in order to see her, I had decided to dedicate today to working on coursework. Things that HAVE to get done, or else it will noticeably impact my grade.However, a wrench was throw into the system- my girlfriend called and said that her grandparents wouldnt be home for a few hours, and she wanted me to come over. I explained to her that I had things to get done and that I couldnt afford to get distracted (and also that 'Ill do it on Sunday' never gets anything done, EVER). She tried bribing me with the idea that we could have sex as many times as we wanted; the house was ours. I told her once again that I needed to finish my work. It's been a couple hours since our initial phone conversation (were talking on IM) and she seems a little mad.. but if I had gone over to her house even for 'a quickie', I would have been there all night and nothing would have gotten done.Now, I ask you guys for your opinions here: I am VERY generous when it comes to my time with her. I sacrifice very much to be able to spend time with her, which has hurt my grades. Am I in the wrong for refusing to give in to her advances because Im being selfish, or is she being selfish and failing to realize that my grades are extremely important?I feel bad for not going to see her, but I can't afford to slack off any more than I have.
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Am I in the right here?
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Well, in my opinion, she's the selfish one. :3
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I wouldn't be too quick to call her selfish, yet. Maybe she doesn't understand the situation you're in. You just need to firmly tell her that, although she's a part of your life, you need to address the other things in your life as well. You can't stop everything else and have your life revolve around her. Let her know that you have to worry about yourself.Why don't you and her try to work up a schedule in which you guys can see each other? I go to college and have a job, and he and I usually see each other on the weekends. And even if I can't see him on the weekends, he understands fully that I have to make my education a priority.And even if you don't see each other, you can also call her or talk to her through chat, even for a little while. As long as you don't completely cut off communication, I don't see how your relationship wouldn't work out.Good luck! I'm sure things will work out.
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When you completely cut off communication that’s when problems begin. At least with me. I’m not having that problem with my girl (hell I can’t go a day with out her ringing me up) but I am with a few friends. And it is bothering me. I’ll stop there cuz …yea this isn’t about that. But yea talk to her and tell her you go to do some things. I know when my girl has her head in the books I can’t go see her. ……..She’d never get any studying done! We tried studying together. nope that didn’t work loli do think it's low of her to hold sex over your head to try to get you to come over. If my girl tryed that with me i;d be pretty pissed at her.