Me and my girlfriend

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I am going out with this girl and we have been going out for about 2 months now, and i have just began to explore (she is my real first girlfriend) and she dosent let me go to downstairs alot of the time, i think that i have to get her in the right mood and everything can anyone (especially girls ) give me tips on just how to maybe make her comfortible with were we are and what exactly to do, beacuse i find myself, fumbling around and not being able to see having to go by touch and if anyone could just give me some tips or just what they did that would be great thanks

If shes uncomfortable with it at all, I wouldnt push it. You may get her in the right mood and she'll let you mess around down there, but when the whole deal is over and shes not horny anymore, she may feel bad about getting caught up in the moment and then in turn she might resent you. Or maybe Im wrong, but I remember my first boyfriend messing around down there and it happened a little too soon and even though I really wanted it at the moment, I felt really bad about myself later. However, if youre set on "playing around" in the lower regions - suck on her nipples - that always gets me in the mood. And dont worry about fumbling around, it happens. Just feel around nice and slow until you find the spot. Insert the finger with palms facing upward and slide in and out - some chicks (including myself) really enjoy when pressure form the finger is focused on the upper part (belly button side) Just take it slow and dont make her feel rushed.

u know what i had a gf like that to. there were days when she said she felt icky about herself n didnt want me to touch her below the belt. iono it was kinda annoying but what can u do u gotta respect it.

Thanks guys (or gals) lol, ya thx for the tips

It's pretty normal for girls to get this way. Sometimes i am able to get more into it than other times, for who knows what reasons. i think you need to realize that girls are unusually insecure. i mean, not just about our bodies; we're worried if we smell, how we taste, if you think we're hairy, skinny, bigboned you name it...so usually, it's not that a girl doesn't want to be pleasured, but that she's more worried about feeling imbarrassed and even guilty afterwords. You'll know when she's into it. she may start by pushing away, that's pretty normal, and then get more into it if you continue to kiss her, until she lets you go down there. Don't force it. you'll only feel like a big jerk afterwords, if you are TOO persistent. As for where your hands go, don't be afraid to feel around a little when you first start. it's pretty normal!

I think you should talk about it with her. Like someone else said, she may not be ready. It's not something you should push unless she's ready...communication is the key