Afraid of gays...Why?

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I am fine with gay people being around me (im a 15 year old strait guy), but I always feel uncomfortable around them and I dont think I could actually ever be a friend (yea I mean a nonsexual friend) with anyone like that...I dont know why it bothers me so much, but its like when I'm in school and I get assigned to work on a project or something with a gay kid, I really just want to get the project over with because I dont want to be around the gay kid...I know that I really shouldnt be a homofobe, but I cant help it and I dont want this to ever affect any of my friendships if one of my friends goes to the gay side...

I am sorry if this offended anyone in any way...I am just trying to get help...

I am going to help you, and listen carefully because this may change your life forever.Its spelled homophobe, with a 'ph' not an 'f'. I hope that helped.

Yeah, I feel that way too. And I'm older than you.

I think its normal. As long as you don't bash or hurt them...You have the freedom of opinion.

Ok, seriously now. Yeah, it's ok for you to feel uncomfortable around gay people, it doesn't make you a bad person or anything, unless, as AsianPlayBoy said, you abuse them in any way for it. Everyone is afraid of things that are different, but if you give them a chance you'll probably find them to be great friends.

it made me a little uncompfortable when I was younger as well. Of course, you probable associate with more gay folks than you think. Not everyone chooses to make that info known. I found that, like with anything, strange things become totally normal with time. In a couple of years, you might wonder why you were ever uncompfortable

I never cared. I am confident of my sexuality so it is one of things where i know that i have nothing to fear.

I'm going with the colonal on this one. And I'm not suggesting this is the way everyone should be. But I am very uncomfortable with gay men. Not so much with lesbians, just men. I've been violated and hurt by a couple of gay men in the past. So I've sort of developed a serious lack of comfort, a sort of fear, that I haven't been able to overcome. I've actually tried over the past year to strike up friendships with a couple of gay men. They are both incredible men who I really think highly of. However, I can't bring myself to be comfortable doing with them the things that go into building a friendship - hanging out, meeting for dinner, certain kinds of 'male bonding intimacy'. It's like a two-edged sword. I have a hard time trusting their motives and that they won't hurt me. At the same time I have a fear of being identified with them if I'm seen in public with them. (Although I don't mind hanging out with them if they are part of a group.)I think it's fine to not be comfortable around a certain type of folk if you are respectful and are not involved in any kind of discriminatory practice against them.But that's just me...

i think that helped a little...but what I think is my problem is that if any of my friends are gay...it would make me uncomfortable to know that i have a friend that is gay that might think of me as more than a friend...that would just be really weird to me and I dont know if I could continue to be friends with someone that likes me...It would make me very uncomfortable just because I dont know what is going through their minds while they are around me...

if your friend was gay, you should ask him if he likes you or not, if he doesnt it wouldnt matter, still be his friend. If he likes you, and u still want to be his friend, sort things out with him. tell him that you arnt gay or bi, and he'll understand. and everything will be fine.

Just think of gay people as ugly girls. If a girl, brilliant person but not attractive, liked you would you stop being friends with her?

k thanks..i dont know that any of my friends are gay...but im sure a few might be...and if it ever comes up...well ill know what to do..(lol) EDITED: and if it ever "cums" up

That was pointless humour(if you could call it that) that had no relivance to what we were talking about.But on the other hand.... lol

gimme a break...im tired lol

col does that mean you don't want to be my friend? :grin: Or are bis okay?

OMG, you're a bi? Ewwwww....

lol are you bi???If you read the post...wait a minute...does this mean that you are sexually attracted to me???

wait...are you a bi gurl or guy???it makes a difference lol...bi girls can be a lot of fun...if you're a bi guy...i would have to say you (bi guy) could be a good friend, but never anything more...

bi girls are great

What's so uncomfortible about gay people? Are you afraid their sexually is going to rub off on you? I just want to understand you're reasoning for feeling uncomfortible about homosexuals. I have a friend who is bi and I will admit it was a bit akward at first because she liked me, but once we set the boundries for our relationship (meaning nothing sexual between us because I didn't feel the same way and I'm strait) we're fine. She is my bestfriend, and I'm glad she's comfortible with her sexuality. She is an amazing person. Homosexuality isn't something you can catch, and there is nothing wrong with it, if a person is gay that's great, if they're strait, that's great too. Why do gays make you feel uncomfortible? I don't understand why, please explain it to me