Ok, heres the story. When my girlfriend and I started dating we both agreed to save sex till marriage and she also added in that she didn't want to do any oral either. At that point i didn't question it and i never thought things would get that far anyway. But lately we have been going to every point just before that. I have kissed all around her pussy and she has evem licked my dick, but no real oral sex.So i don't know if i should go ahead and give her oral sex or not. Because at one point she was opposed to it, but now she seems like she wants to go for it. Would i be disrespecting her if, in the heat of the moment, i gave her oral? I know everyone is going to respond by saying just talk to her but i would really like some advice before i bring it up with her.
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My agreement with my gf
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Go fuck her. And after that talk to her
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I dunno. If I were a guy I would try it. If she hasn't objected to you kissing all around her pussy, and she's licked your dick, I say go for it. All she can do is say she wants to wait for marriage, then you can apologize because you just got caught up in the heat of the moment.
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If my bf did that to me.. id slit his throat!!
I was the one to jump when me and my bf could have had sex.. which we did!!
Just ask her how things are still... ask her if she wants to go forward.. if not.. then .. dont!
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while it would be easy to go all the way and use the excuse "in the heat of the moment", she knows that you do know it is not what you agreed to. she may be very annoyed and angry at you if you do go all the way. ... or she might not, its hard to say cause we are not her.like you said, talking to her is really the only safe way, otherwise, be prepared for the consequences
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perhaps you could try letting her know that by the way she is acting, -you think she wants to go all the wayi mean, if you dont want sex / oral sex, then why are you taking off each others pants?
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She has licked your dick but hasn't given you oral.
IDK, this all seems pretty silly to me. I mean, if she is licking your dick then what the hell??? What's the difference? Yeah yeah It's not in her mouth.. blah blah. Tell her to just go for it.
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That was what i thought but i was thinking i was just coming up with an easy excuse Well i guess i'll go with the theory keep goin till she stops me, and hope it doesnt bite me in the ass. O and when she first talked about not having oral i was kinda confused and i came on these boards and learned that some girls are grossed out by it. and she has only licked me once for like 5 seconds total.
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i agree with you sdp, they've already engaged in oral sex
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next time get it in writing, then you can sue her for breach of contract
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Lol, ill do that
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Please rethink this, monkey. You said that this was an agreement between both of you. It doesn't sound like it was her forcing a decision on you. I can't help believing there are reasons for this for both of you and, if there is, you both may very well be disappointed if anything happens. Maybe you can talk to her again and firm up the agreement. If you decide to renege on it (even though I hope you don't) it needs to be a decision that comes out of a mindful conversation, not in the heat of the moment.
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Sorry...I just read your post again and realized that the no oral thing was not a mutual thing, but was her decision that you are respecting. But once again, if the agreement is going to change, it should be discussed not just arrived at when you're both all hot and bothered.