Question for you ladies out there...I've been seeing a woman for about six months and since then we have agreed that our relationship as lovers will not continue. Basically she is moving to Texas in three months and we've both agreed not to do long distance. We're both still good friends and still talk about 2-3 times week. Since she is the best sex I've ever had, I'd like to continue the sexual relationship but I am unsure on how to approach her with the "no strings attached" proposition. We're both very comfortable with each other and I believe she may agree, but I would like to get some opinions on how to approach this with her. Ladies! Need some help with this one....Thanks
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No Strings Attached?
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is she mature? how old are u and how old is she? is she the kind of person who is looking towards having a family? Is she serious in general? When u 2 had sex, did she like it? Does she like to have sex in general?
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I would consider her mature...She is 24 and I am 26, so it's not like were both a couple inexpereinced teen agers. Right now I would say a family is the last thing on her mind.
As far as the sex we had, it was great. Like I said, the best I've ever had and that's why I'd like to continue it despite the fact that in a couple months we won't really be talking as much.
She loves sex. I wouldn't go as far to say that she is a slut, but the girl definitely likes having good sex. And I can give her that. Not being conceded, but she loved it. As did I.
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alright well than u might want to just call her up once in a while and take her out for like a coffee, or some desert place. Talk like friends, or even ask her if she wants to go and rent a movie. Than, i dont even know, smell good and be charming, confident too, and u prolly know her turn ons and offs so its easier, use that. Also body language, very easy to understand. Any questions???
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plus... concidering the fast the family is the last thing on her mind and that she loves sex, its pretty easy to just have a one night stands once in a while
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That's good advice. Sounds a lot like what I would try to do. But what about just coming straight out and asking her? Would she be offended, or if asked properly would she consent? I don't think beating around the bush would get me anywhere. I get the feeling that I should just come right out and ask and if she turns me down, well then I'll know for sure. What do you think?
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yeah you could do that. Like i said u know her pretty well right? so just pick a moment when u wanna ask her and do it. Dont say YOU want it bad, say it was amazing and you would like to experience it again and again u know what i mean?
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Yep, know what you mean. I guess I just don't want ruin the friendship and the good times we had with a proposal like that, but on the other hand I enjoy the sex with her and would like to continue until she leaves.
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shes leaving in couple of months, what do u got to loose?
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Thanks...good advice.
Just curious...Are you male or female?
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im male
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Appreciate the advice...I'll give it a shot.I'll tell you though, the girl has the stuff. Boy oh boy...
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no problem anytime, this board is great, i've been on here for about 3 months maybe and its good, giving all kinds of advices and help. Make sure u visit once in a while and let me know how it turns out with that girl with stuff lol
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It's like a book. Two thumbs up.
I'd just ask straight out. All you have to lose is time. Time that could be spent having sex. heheh. I'm not much of a one-night-stand guy myself, but whatever floats you're boat. Make sure you keep it a "no strings" relationship. It'll be bad if you become really attached and all of a sudden she's gone. Chicks are like drugs man. Get hooked and it's a b!tc# to stop.
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yeah, there is always that risk.
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I think we can rule that out, because we've already dealt with the fact that she will be gone in 2 months. Both of us have agreed that a serious long term relationship is not going to happen. It was hard on both of us at first, we went through the heartache stage together and since then we have accepted the fact that we will not be together much longer. With that in mind, why can't we continue to have great sex together without the feelings of attachment, knowing that we will not be together in the future? Purely a sexual thing, nothing more. When she leaves, she's gone for good. Find another partner. I'm not worried about this part...What I'm worried about is my approach and the way I ask her. Part of me thinks she couldn't pass it up. It's great sex with someone you are comfortable with and trust. The other part of me thinks she might be offended because she might think that I think she is a slut by having sex with no committment. Any additional advice from anyone? Hopefully from someone who has been in this position before?
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If your comfortable with her all you really have to is just ask. Ask like you'd ask her if she'd like a cup of tea. Don't make a big deal about the fact, if she likes sex and if shes gonna be down oftenish then a quick stop round yours for a bit of lovin before she goes see her gran or summit mite just be what the doctor ordered.Basically you want her to be a Fuck Buddy aren't you
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Precisely. Except maintain a friendship. I would still do anything for her. Talk to her when she felt down, take her to dinner when she wasn't busy, tell her she's sexy as hell, etc....Usually when I think of a fuck buddy, I think of a guy using a girl for sex until he completely drops her. In this case, both parties are aware that it's just sex and both parties are completely fine with that. She's coming over tonight, so it'll be a good opportunity to ask her. I'll keep everyone filled in.
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I had that with one of my exes. It's a really good thing as long as you do one thing. AS SOON AS there's a new interest in either of your lives, cut it off. I found out after the fact that the last time I made out with my ex he'd already started dating this other chick long-distance. It caused a huge rift in our friendship. But keep the communication open and I think she'd be up for it!
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my mate did this with her babys dads they had been broken up for months but still sleeping together. She alwasy said to me he might get bk with me but well now she has ended up pregnant and he wants nothing more to do with her.