Hi, I'm a 17 year old gay man. I had sexual activities 3 times, with 3 different men. 1 of them I know for sure he had nothing because he went to test HIV and all other STDs before we did anything and all resulted negative but the others I don't know. Both were married, and honestly speaking I was abused by them. One of them went through me for about 3 - 5 seconds and then I forced him to stop. Is it possible that during those 5 seconds HIV could have transmited to me? I'm really am concerned, I feel axhausted about this. I really don't know what to do. Oh by the way, this was about 3 to 4 years ago. I appreciate any help. Thanks a lot.
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HIV - Help??
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Anything is possible. Have you had an HIV test yourself? If not what are you waiting for?
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I never did. I'm too scared to take that test. My family don't know about my sexuallity. So that's one thing that's holding me back. Apart from that, if I'm positive they want to know with whom I slept with, obviously telling that I was sexually abused gonna shock them.
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Does your family have to know about your sexuality to go to family planning or something like that to get tested? I admit it is scary, but it is well worth it. You need to know. You may be putting someone else at risk if you have it. Please get tested. And be safe from now on.
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To tell you the truth since then I haven't touched anyone sexually, I'm aware of not transmiting anything i have to someone else. But still I'm frightend of what the result will be.
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I strongly sugest you get tested asap! There are free clinics you can go to. But if you're afraid your family might find out there are at home tests that you can take that allow you to take your own blood sample and send it in to be anonymously tested. The only test approved by the FDA for home collection is Home Access. You can get this test in most drug stores, but it is also available for sell online at Home Access , or by calling 1-800-CONFIDE. Please get yourself tested, you could be saving your life as well as someone elses.
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I spoke to a friend of mine, he knows a doctor and going to do an appointment with him for me. I will be tested soon I guess. Still very concerned of what might happen. Well, I guess this is the right solution.
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Of course it is scary. I have went in for 2 of them, one was because of social gossip, and the other just because, but I lived, and it came back ok. Not knowing is way more scary than knowing. I swear!!
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Good luck with the test
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You were just a little boy when this happened if it was a few years ago! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!!! These men raped you! How are you feeling emotionally?
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Testing can be a very scary process and good wake up call to make better decisions, but knowing is much better than worrying. Hopefully everything will be fine, good luck and think about counseling to help you deal with the emotional and physical trauma you have experienced.
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Hi! It's me Unknown. I had some problems with the other username and I had to create another one to tell you the news. I went through the test and praise God it resulted Negative (HIV-). I was so scared of the result but now that I did it I feel so much better! Thanks for encouraging me to do it. I've been concerned about this matter since the day of the abuse. Someone asked me how it effected me emotionaly. Believe me, it was the worst experience that could ever happen to me. Also I think that because of those sexual abuse experiences it resulted to the person I am today (Meaning being sexual attracted to guys) I don't know if you can understand me, I don't like guys at all. In fact I like hangin around with girls, but when it comes to sexual attraction I'm attracted to guys. It's kinda dum to try to explain it. And if you don't understand what I'm trying to say, I totally understand it. It's kinda difficult to accept this matter myself. The fact because of my family don't know about these experiences I can't go into professional help. I mean, they always asks me where I'm headin when I go out, and if I'll start goin they might force me to know why. It's funny how I said this over here. It's been burried inside me since that day. No one knows about it. (Except now of course, you who's reading this) It was difficult to go through it once, imagine I went through it again. Believe me it's an awefull experience. I would like to tell others who somehow or an other went through something like this to never give up on yourself. There were times when I told myself that I'm a disgusting looser, I couldn't accept what I went through. For some reason I was blaming myself. After a long time I realised that it wasn't my fault after all. Those sick bastards needs help, coz certainly what they did to me was sick. Sometimes I wonder how many guys like me had to go through same experience because of these sick people.Well, thanks for reading this. It seems that it's already better that I told this to someone! Thanks once again! dunknowner
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YAY, soooo glad for you that everything turned out fine with the test, what a relief for you *big hugs*
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hehe Yeps! It's a huge relief! I'm sooooo glad myself!
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Thats brilliant news. I bet your looking at the world very differently now right? Sound weird < but a friend had a similar scare (with HIV) and when he tested negative...well he's a different person now..As he thought he was going to 'die' (his life was 'over' etc) he lost hope but now he's doing all this new stuff. Sorry just random thoughts.