ok where do i start its a very very long story....well ill start to the fact that when i was just 17 and just about to have my son my mother told me that my dad wasnt my real dad !!!!! i was gutted and angry i still am in facted as ive been lied to all this time. The only reason my mum told me this is becouse my real dads sister had got in contacted with my mum . I spoke to my real dad ray a few times but then i realised it was his sister that wanted me NOT him. i have never heard the real story of what happend and why i was lied to cause everyone fobs me off, they say that its in the past and he was a real wanker. The thing is they aint thinking about ME what about all the questions i have to ask him, like that fact my sister who my real dad has to his ex wife is only 10 months younger than me !!!! Anywayz i found my birth certifacte last week and i noticed that i was born in 1983 which i already knew , BUT i was registerd in 1985 ??? you only have 2 weeks to register a child by law over here in the uk so its allstrange. I asked my dad (the man who i call dad) why this is the way it is, all he said was umm well umm i cant remeber!!!! bollox sorry but he must remeber my mum doesnt wanna speak to me cause she heard im asking alot of questions which i think i have the right to know what the hell is going on n who i really am. Also after i found out about my real dad i found a pic of me with my real dad and some young woman who i have never seen before, when i tackled my mum about it she dismissed it as a family friend but when i asked my dad who she was he said i didnt need to know !!!! My heads a mess i dunno what to think i wanna know what the hell is going on no one is thinking about me at all it my sound selfish but i NEED to know who i am .... help its really messing me up
Dont go through life trying to be a apple when your a berry....the Grass is never greener on the other side
Maybe they are afraid of how you'll react, if you've given them reason to believe so.
When I was 4, I had open heart surgery. My mom told me around the age of 6 that I had a monkey's heart, a baboon to be exact, and I FULLY believed it.
Than she switched up her story around the age of 9 and told me it was actually the heart of a 12 year old girl who died in a car accident. If that doesn't fuck with someone's head I don't know what doeas. Now I don't trust anyone.
yeah, they probably scared. they don't wanna lose you, you too important to them, and you 'dad' must be feeling bad, knowing that the girl he raised as his daughter may not see him as her dad anymore. it will happen in time, they just as shocked as you that you have found this out and are asking all these questions. keep bugging them, but in a nice way, givre them time, it will all come out in the end. if you wanna chat more, you got my number and email *hugs
you once said that a problem halved was a problem shared, but i couldnt tell you coz i didnt know you cared
I miss you
In reply to:You are you. ok i don't get the 83 -85 thing... but your parents are who raised you, not who made you. Why do i say this. i don't know if i told u or not, Diver is the only one that knows this, Ryan and the twins are my hald siblings. my mom is Ryan's mom and the twin's dad is my dad. ryan don't know who his dad is. To him my dad is his dad. and my dad did adopit him when he was really young after he married mom. the twin's mom split and left them with dad after he told her he was in love with my mom. for most of my life i thought they were my Full broth and siters. even now after i know there only half i still think of them as full , exept one. i hate her she's not my sis any more Grrrrrrr. but i'm in a good mood and not going there. Back to ryan.. He don't care that he don't know the guy that banged my mom , his sire (ok horse term sorry ) but to him my dad is his dad cuz he raised him. bla bla bla
it may sound selfish but i NEED to know who i am
but yeah, you do have a right to know. if you knew what would it change?
I didn't know that, CR.
A lot of people use the term "sperm donor" for a father who didn't do much apart from taking part in the conception.
I use it myself. Actually he's known as Spud the turtle. Spud short for sperm donor and turtle cuz he looks like one when he gets his haircut.
But yeah, one of my fave quotes: "Any man can be a father, it takes someone special to be a dad."
LIFE'S GOOD, SO KEEP ON SUCKIN'...MEOW!
I have a brother and 3 sisters. They all have the same dad, but I have a different dad. I don't consider them my half brother and half sisters. They consider my dad, the one who raised us all, to be their dad. Most of em' could give a shit about their biological dad.
If I were you, I wouldn't care about who your biological parents or parent is. The people that raised you are the ones that matter.