For many years I've been a very shy, anxious person. But at this present point in time, I have a big problem.I've just left school, I'm 16. My intention was to go to college and study various subjects, for a good job. But something really hit me, I'm not sure what the hell it was - I started off great, made good friends, hanged out with them etc. Then I found myself, not wanting to go back to college, to study the subjects I really liked, to phone or socialise with my friends or do anything. I guess I came up with this wild reason being 'I don't like college'.So, I dropped out. I decided to get a job, but I didn't. It's 9 months now since then, and I've been suffering from some very irritating yet serious problems. I can't go out of the house - I won't - I dont know why, I won't speak to people - who I don't know, I won't spend time with my family - all I will do is spend time on my computer. I also have a problem eating and drinking in front of people, when I look up to drink out of a cup, my neck shakes like crazy and same if I'm leaning over to take a bite off my fork. I guess I can't even look at people without shaking or feeling very sick. This goes back to since when I was 4. I used to be very scared of people and various things. I used to cry alot. But I grew out of that at around the age of 8. I fainted a few times in my life, because of the anxiety problems and I've always, always felt sick in the morning and never ate breakfast. Like when I was 8, I grew out of the big problems I faced, people, crying etc, when I went to secondary school. It was alot better when I started in secondary school, but I moved schools. And then I started off again - started off well, but blew it big time, and I ended up how I am now. But it all went away when I started college and now here it's back again, a very big problem in my life. Is this some kind of mental illness ?Sorry for my english, I rushed this alot.
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Very strange
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Here's some more info:I'm currently going to see a doctor about this, but I've been put on a waiting list for 6 months. So that is why I've posted this thread, to get some help quicker. It's a very serious problem, I can't get a job, because of my problems, or make friends or do anything. My parents understand, but only slightly, I guess. It's hard for them to understand this problem, as I guess, it's not normal.They put pressure on me to do something like go out, get a job, but they don't understand what I'm putting up with. My body doesn't let me do the things I want - I suppose is the best way to put it. An example of this is if I force myself to do something like go get a job, my stomach makes me fee like being sick, my legs go all shaky, and I start sweating and my heart pounding very fast. It's not a good experience, and I feel fine when I'm on my own in my house. I've tried taking a step at a time to solve this, but it comes back, harder, tougher than ever.I'm a very kind, generous person, and I have many opportunities in my life, to do anything. I just can't do anything I want. Help!
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There are resources out there that can help. I don't know how serious this is, but I've heard of "anxiety coaches" going out and helping people one step at a time. I assume they charge a lot, but I would think it was worth it in the long run.
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Ever considered calling a helpline or summit? They can give you plenty of support and advice on your situation.
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It sounds like some sort of anxiety disorder, notsogood, like agoraphobia (it may be agoraphobia or it may be a different anxiety disorder). It certainly needs a professional. It's obviously a serious issue, since it's preventing you from working and living a normal life. Having to wait six months is appalling.
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ok maam!you sound like me!it makes me mad to hear tht other peole have the same problem!i feel like i wanna say, you can do anything you want!!so go study,work,whaever!but then i think of myself and i realise how you feel.it's called social anxiety.i wouldnt call it a disorder,as it is often refered to as.that aint right.i guess i'll share my story with you.in 8th grade i started to become a rather reclusive figure.i never felt comfortable around people.my only friends were a few guys and we stuck together tight.so i was in a real comfort zone.after 12th grade we went our seperate ways.the one guy was a crack addict the depended on my friendship,he drained me.he treated me like shit.i told him to fuck off.but to the point here!!!after we split,i hoped id find friends.i went to uni and was so petrified of the 20000 or so peeps there that i used to run to library and sit there during all my free time,even if it was for 15 mintues.i couldnt just stand around and be seen.so after doing a year there,i changed to home study.so i dont go for lectures and i stay home all the time.its been about a year now.i once had a job,i felt like you before i got it.but i started working,i felt better.proud.you'll be ok.go to bookstores and read books about anxiety and social phobias. learn about what you're going through.it helps put it in perspective.i see a shrink and go to a group.do they help?yeah?they dont take the problem away,but they halp me deal with it.i am me,i used to feel ashamed of the way i am.like people say when i see em at shops or whaever,"hey,when did you get back from overseas".i used to et embarrassed,now i laugh.do i stay home that much???yeah!but it's ok,i'll be ok,you'll be ok.you are you,and you are beautiful.keep that in mind.let us know how you doing. smile,and look after yourself.haha,and yeah,i used to get all the physical symptoms you mentioned.i'd start shaking,like my whole body,like shivering rather.id sweat so bad i'd feel beads running down my body,id get hot,cold,go red,white,my heart owuld exellerate,my breating get stiffled,it goes on and on.i feel way better these days.like a normal person.well not quite but getting there.