In reply to: Wouldn't it be fair to say that people don't choose to be gay, but they choose to live the lifestyle? did you choose to live the lifestyle of a hetero?read your own signature lineLife is a hypocrite if I cannot live the way it moves me.
-
Lesbian Guide
-
Heterosexuality or homosexuality...makes no difference. Sexuality and lifestyle are two different things. Homo/Hetero-sexual is who you are. Lifestyle is what you do. You may not choose who you are, but you definitely choose what you do.
-
In reply to:you definitely choose what you do.That's true in the abstract, but what are the implications in practice? A homosexual has the choice of having sex, or not having sex and not caring about it, or not having sex and wishing he did. Same applies to heterosexuals. What does it mean in the scheme of things?
-
In reply to: Heterosexuality or homosexuality...makes no difference. Sexuality and lifestyle are two different things. Homo/Hetero-sexual is who you are. Lifestyle is what you do. You may not choose who you are, but you definitely choose what you do. in this society, sexuality and lifestyle are only two different things when it comes to homosexuals. the differentiation is only applied to gays. by fearful, pompous attitudes of many straights, i might add.and how can you say that you choose what you do? no het that i know has ever chosen to be gay. it's not even on the radar. unfortunately, too many gays that i know have "chosen" the "straight lifestyle". against every fiber in their being. because of the very statements and assumptions made throughout this and many other threads here. it's not a choice, it just is. Life is a hypocrite if I cannot live the way it moves me.
-
In reply to: in this society, sexuality and lifestyle are only two different things when it comes to homosexuals. That's not true. I'm straight, but still my sexuality and what I choose to do with it are two different things. In reply to: and how can you say that you choose what you do? no het that i know has ever chosen to be gay. As a straight man, I still choose what kind of life I want to live around my sexuality: promiscuity, monogomy, celibacy, whatever. And I could in fact choose to have gay sex if I wanted to. I know there are many straight men who have done that. What about the 'gay for pay' porn actors. They are straight, but they choose to have gay sex for pay. That's what I mean by choice. In reply to: unfortunately, too many gays that i know have "chosen" the "straight lifestyle". Which kind of proves my point, doesn't it? Even if they don't chose to be attracted to folks of the same gender, they can chose to have sex with the same gender, other gender, or no sex at all. Even if they choose same gender sex, they can be promiscuous or monogomous, dominant or submissive, regular sex or BDM...and so on...lots of choices. In reply to: because of the very statements and assumptions made throughout this and many other threads here. I almost think that you're misunderstanding what I'm trying to say, and that we are more in agreement than you would think. I don't believe people choose which gender they are attracted to sexually, but I do believe that they choose what they DO with that attraction.
-
In reply to:
I do believe that they choose what they DO with that attraction.
Same applies to gay, bi, and hetero people. A gay person can choose not to have a partner. A hetero person can chose not to have a partner. Either can be promiscuous. Either can live in an apartment or a house.
I'm still not sure what the point is.
-
The point is that I suggested that, while folks may not choose to be homosexual, they do choose their lifestyle. Others disagreed.
-
Well yeah, of course. But some people read a value judegment of some sort into your statement. Being homosexual doesn't for anyone to do anything any more than being white forces you to do anything.
-
If anyone saw a value judgment, that is their own projection. There was absolutely not value judgment in my words.
-
Well, around here, if you say "water is wet", some clever wag will question your intentions. If you say "water tastes good", it could start a flame war.
-
true dat