heyon the 6th april it will be a year since i met my x. met him on a website, he lives like 6 hours away. i went down to see him (brighton) and spent 6 hours on several trains. it was th best day of my life yet, we had such a great day, really clicked. anyway, we had a good time, didnt see eachother much during our relationship as my parents didnt agree so it was hard being able to see him, but it was fab when i did, worth all the hassle and the waiting for weeks till our next encounter. we had a good relationship until 5 months later and he broke up with me the 1st tuesday i was living away from home coz of uni. uni was sposed to make it easier, no parents to get in the way, more chance to see eachother, etc, was gonna be great! but then he went and split up with me its bin 6 months and im still gutted, finding it impossible to get over him. i miss him and still love him. i know he's probably got a girlfriend and has definately ,moved on from me, so why am i finding it so hard to deal with?!? so now its gonna be a year since we met and got it together, should be spending our 1 year anniversary together, but instead im going out with work to drown my sorrows, hving a string of 1 night stands to try and convince myself that im over him. but im not and its killing me!i need help, what can i do? its tearing me up inside, to know that he is sharing his life with someone other than me, to know he's holding and kissing and hugging and laughing with some other girl. to know that he is sharing his innermost feelings with her instead of me. i hate this, i need help, what can i do to stop this heart wrenching pain everytime i talk to him or see his name up on msn, etc.Please, before i crack up completelybecky xxx(sorry its so long)
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Oh no, I am sorry you are in pain, and I definately understand where you are coming from. From experience, the best advice is to just give it some time. Going out and having one night stands won't help you heal. You cant do anything to 'make' yourself get over him. Just try doing things you enjoy to pass the time, you never know who you may meet while you are focused on being happy without him.
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Oh sweetie I'm so sorry you have to deal with that sort of pain! I know how you feel, I'm still dealing with the pain of losing my ex. Just like MM and I said, having one night stands wont help you to heal, it can actually make you feel worse. The best thing you can do is hang out with friends, do things that make you happy, just basically keep yourself so buisy with friends and family you wont have time to think about him.
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Greetings fellow British person!I'm having the same problem as you at the moment. It's almost been a year since I met my ex, and now more than ever she is in my dreams, and even more recently, I've started to have nightmares of her being intimate with other people, and it's horrible. I felt like we were made for each other, and the thought of her being with someone else brings me to tears. At the rate things are going with me, I don't think I'll ever get over her - and whats worse is that I never got any official closure from her, and last time I saw her it was like we were still going out. She held my hand and hugged me and it was really hard to deal with.I'm afraid that I can't really help you - but I just thought I'd say that you're not alone, and that hopefully we'll get through it.
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hehe totally with you on that, everything you said is the same with me, finding it really so very hard to deal with. should be over it by now, he is, why can't I?!? grrr! luckily, i don't see him around as lives quite a way away. is the 0nly good thing at the mo, i dont how i'd be if i was to see him again.thnx guys, tis helpful what you said, i know having 1 nighters doesnt help amd wont help me get over him, just need to find other ways to cope he's not coming back i need to find a way to deal with it, but am struglling at the mo. suffer from depression anyway, is not really helping with that. but am going out with work on a night out on the day it sposed to be '1 year' so i wont be alone to think about and dwell on it, should help a great deal.thnx againBecky xxx
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and he used to come on here a lot, but hasnt since we broke up, so got a feeling of guilt coz i dont want him suffering in silence. he would come on here to talk about his problems and depression but doesnt now, (sorry to all those that were friends with him) i hoep it wasnt my fault
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hey there huni just wanted you to know that im going throught a similar problem to you and i know just how much it hurts, all i can suggest (and what has helped me) is keep yourself busy, face up to the fact that he has moved on and you should too, spend time with friends, they really are the best people to make you feel better, do things that make you happy and never ever see yourself as in any way to blame for what happened, its just of the things in life that really sucks but often happens. talk about it as much as you need to, talking does help, mail us if you are ever upset, ill try and help if i can, or just talk to people on here most of them are really brilliant, x
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yeah, all the ppl on here rock. thnx hunni
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I've definelty been there. I noticed you said you still see that name on msn messenger. This means you still have stuff around that reminds you. My advice and it certainly helped the process was, remove everything that could ever remind you of him from your sight, but stuff away in a shoebox, burn it if you have to. Then delete everything of his from your computer. Im not saying completly forget beacuse there is value in every relationship, but there is no need to be constantly reminded. When i did this with an ex it helped me tremendously after a few weeks, i still remembered but when i was able to get my mind off it i wouldn't have anything to remind me. Eventually i was fine.