Hello guys! I've always sucked with girls big time. I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend in my miserable life. I don't go out that much, but even if I do I can't do nothing about it. I have so much trouble talking to girls. I've had the worst of luck, and it's almost as if god doesn't want me around girls!Well, I've thought a lot about it over time, and I've come to understand my need more. I don't even need a girlfriend right now, but the pain of never having one is killing me inside. It is this pain that has been bugging me for so long. I feel as if I don't have a chance in helI with girls. Like a loser. I just can't get over it. So I've come to think that the only way I can get rid of this pain is to fullfill my need once and for all. I want to find out for once if it is ever possible for me to be loved by the opposite sex. The only way I can do this is to face girls. Except this time, I'll be trying better than ever before. If I can manage to fullfill this need. The pain will stop. And I will no longer want a girlfriend this badly. If I don't stop this hurt now, it will haunt me for the rest of my life. Anyways, the damage it has caused caused me is serious enough already. The last thing I want is dying of loneliness. The only problem is that I'm afraid. I've been afraid all this time. But never like this. Doubt and confussion is filling my head. Before I jump in, I want advice from you guys. How can I talk to girls? What can I do? What shall I say? You know thta sort of stuff. Thanks! God shall bless all of you for your help!
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Time to face them....
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Afraid? Why? Wow, u make it seem like we are a pool of sharks waiting to eat you alive. Women arent that bad, trust me. Before you can be concerned with finding a girlfriend you have to address your own personal issues. Work on building your self esteem. You are not a loser, your life isn't miserable, and you wont die of loneliness, you are only 21. Until you address those issues no woman will want you.
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The problem is that not having a good relationship with girls is what makes my confidence go down. And I know that is my weekness. It's just so difficult to gain full confidence like this. I'm still going to try my best and be myself. I know girls will never like me like this. And that is why I'm willing to change that.
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It's not that I'm afraid of girls. It's just that I'm afraid of failing again and not getting anywhere.
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Yea man i feel ur pain. Its almost like u try so hard and put so much into it and then they let u down. I have shitty luck with women to
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Well. I guess me and you can help each other out. I bet you're a great guy. Guys like you and me have lots to offer. It's just that nobody ever sees it.I'm yet to find a girl similar to me. Girls here just want to party and don't even take love seriously. I've tried online dating and I found this girl that is like me. I sent her a messege. I'm just waiting for her reply...Well tommorow is another day...
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I know how you feel man - and it sure does suck to be in such a state of depression and sadness. I fell into similar modes when I was getting over a girl, always thinking I was doomed to never love another and all the things you're thinking now. It took me a long time to get it through my skull that girls are just people too. I know that you're probably a great guy, and being 21 with no gf is nothing to worry about. You've got bigger things to worry about like doing well in school and keeping yourself healthy. I figure that all girls grow out of their party phases once they're a few years mature past college. It is then that they start looking for a guy to settle down with. So our time will come.
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As a woman, all I can say is someone who tries too hard, puts me off! I like a person for who they are, not who they are trying to be, pretend to be, or want to be.
There is someone for everyone out there, and you will meet that person at the right time, not before, no matter how hard you try............so, enjoy being you, stop worrying about girls, have fun, and it will happen! -
Yes, I'll find the right one. But how will I ever meet her if I'm going to be too afraid to talk to her. That's why I'm starting off now to get better at it and loose the fear. And I'm not going to try too hard. In fact, I've been learning how to talk to girls.
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AHHH that onlien dating thing is not good! i tried it and ill put it this way, 3 strikes and its out. ITs gone i will never use it again, cringes
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I don't beleive that you will be too afraid to talk to her, when it comes to it, its the thought of doing it thats WAY more scary than the event - have fun