Ahhh.... help me please!!!!

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I am 14 and I have never expierenced an orgasm(sort embarrasssing considering my age and all)and i don not know why.Before i mastubated by massaging my penis, but when I found out the correct way for an un-circuumsized person like me that i neede to pull my foreskin back over the head.When I tried to do this I only got to the mid section of the head and saw saw red thing on the underside of my penis! I looked online and found out that it was the frenulum.So i tried again and I just couldnt get past the head...It felt odd.Is this normal?It also feels sorta tight around the head..Also is that normal?What ifi am never able to pull it back all the way!!!That is a scary thought,especially if me and my girlfriend ever got really serious with me...could someone please help me out.Also I have never ejaculated!! Am i messed up or am I overreacting?

Hi Chan. As far as never ejaculating, don't worry. There is no rule that says you have to ejaculate by such and such age.
As for the foreskin retraction thingy...I'm circumcized so I can't speak from experience. But I can tell you that there was a very similar thread in the male genital area. Check around there. YOu'll probably find the answers you need. If not, hang on. I'm sure some of our uncut buddies will come to your rescue!

Uncut to the rescue!!!You are definately just over-reacting. Its not unusual to have never orgasmed by the time you're 14, it will happen eventually. And you should really make sure your foreskin is loose/wet before you try to pull it back. It doesn't need to be pulled back completely though, just enough to clear the whole opening.

wet? what do u meen by that? (not too off subject please)

Well, when trying to pull back the foreskin, you should do it in the shower or bath, it makes it easier. Lubrication my young man.

So that meens I have to be in the shower?Well what woul I have to do if it was dry?Will it lossen as I get older or something?

No, when having sex and usually when masturbating, precum is released out of the penis and this lubrictes your penis. As well as the fluids from a womans vagina, you shouldn't have a problem when having sex. But if you do, there is always lube.

But what if I just want to masturbate?? in my bed or soemthing?How do I know if it isl ubricating?When does it start to lubricate?If it is natural why isnt happenig?Or is it because i am not ejaculating?so many questions.

As I said, when you are aroused, neccesary for masturbation, your penis will become erect and with stimulation you should have precum/precome (I won't explain what this is, look at the male genitalia forum for info). This precum acts as lubrication and will help your foreskin retract.But I should tell you know that it is not completely neccesary to fully retract your foreskin. I myself don't retract it much at all.

REally?I thought u needed to retract it all the way for sex or mastubation?All the way behind the head.

Or what about if i ever get blowed or felt?What if thee girl wants it back all the way or something?

No, it doesn't need to be retracted fully, although if you want it to then just keep trying, unless there is a bit of skin attached that is stopping it, then go see a doctor about it.Eh, girls really don't have preference as to whether the foreskin is pulled back, and if it hurts to do so tell her, if you don't tell her then she might pull too hard and do some serious damage. Oh, and don't double post, there is an edit option beside your post to make any changes you want.

You keep telling guys that they don't need to fully retract, bob. I think that's the wrong advise. By not being able to fully retract, the person might find himself in a situation where the frenulum can tear during sex or the forskin gets stuck behind the head. The bottom line is that you should be able to fully retract the foeskin when erect no matter what.

sorry,and whay were you saying about a piece of skin stopping it?because when i pull back and get to the part at the top of the head with the opening there is a red piece of skin at the underside or base of the opening,please tell me that it is the frenulum,is it supposed to be that high up,because I do not wan tto seee a doctor about a diffrent piece ofskin..That would suck when im older.Is it normal for there to be piece of skin at the base of the opening???

Have you taken a look at the Male Anatomy thread in teh Foreskin/Circumcision forum? If you have not please do so.

In reply to: You keep telling guys that they don't need to fully retract, bob. I think that's the wrong advise Sorry if its the wrong advice, its what a doctor told me though. And not just a GP, a specialist.

I still think it's wrong based on the reasons I mentioned above.

And I agree with you. But in some cases where it is not possible for the foreskin to be retracted fully, it isn't the end of the world and won't stop anyone from enjoying sex properly, even though there may be some risk of damage.

I would guess its either because your not old enough, which would suck, or that since your curcumsized it is indeed harder so you must use lube or something of that matter.