Hi, I really love my girlfriend, we've been dating for over ten months now. We are both 15, but during out time together she has done weed and drank beer only a couple of times. But during these times she does it until she can't even stand anymore. Now I would never touch the stuff, she always does it at her sisters house. I try and warn her about the risks etc. but she doesn't listen...She uses the excuse that it's the only time she can see her, but she does it every time she goes there. I need help to try and convince her to stop...any ideas???????
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I need some help!!!!
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Well, I guess you can print out some sideaffects of weed and show it to her, maybe she wll be disgusted. Try to find a person that has been doing weed and is now poor and has a sickness, make the person tell her about the bad experience in weed. Finally if all else fails take her to one of those profesional people that will help. If that doesnt work just smack her and say, hey if you dont stop Im going to leave you. Dont be crazy, stop smoking weed its bad for you.
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Well it helps a little bit, but I can't take her to see a professional, neither of us could pay for it, and she doesn't want our parents to know. I promised her I wouldn't tell. I'm trying the risks idea, I've told her lots of things she can get from drinking and smoking weed, and last night I sent her an e-mail with a clip from another topic on afraidtoask, I hope that works. Anyway, she says she just can't say no to her sister, or when she tries she isn't able to. I respect that she misses her sister since she moved out a couple months ago and now she has no one to talk to (cause she hates talking to her parents about stuff because thay are VERY strict), but I don't see why she has to do them when she sees her sister. My girlfreind also said that if the person has it, you take it. I had nothing to say to that, I didn't know WHAT to say. And about the threating to leave her...I wouldn't be able to do that, I love her to much to lose her, it's the same reason I am goin through all this trouble to help her, I want to be with her forever. Thanks anyway for your help. I'm just glad I came across this site, be able to speak my mind without get critized about it, and not hurting anyone.
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I see. Well, I dont know what else to say but just because her sister is offering it to her its no exuse to take it. Good luck
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Thanks again anyway....anyone else got ideas?
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Leave her alone. She has done it a few times? So what? Your just overly worried. If it was a regular thing, I would say you have a problem on your hands, but A FEW TIMES? .... If your still overly worried, explain to her you dont like her getting completly smashed, and that you wish not to be there when it happens (Tho it is best to have a sober person with you while your drunk, but thats just me)
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FaBMX we are talking about weed not just getting drunk
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I know exactly what were talking about. Smoking weed a few times isn't going to cause problems. I'm actually more concerned about the binge drinking more then I am the marijuana. But, like he said, A FEW TIMES.
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I'm 18 now, I've been with the same girlfriend for a little under two years. I used to be a huge stoner/pothead whatever. Infact the first 3 times I ever saw her I was so high I don't remember it all that much. We dated for a couple weeks without the subject ever coming up, and when it did, I was in shock! I remember thinking to myself, "how could anyone hate such a wonderful thing!!!". She continued to tell me she hated it, and would never do it herself. I kept using it because I didn't see any reason that someone else should be telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing. After a while, I decided to quit for my own reasons, and I've been happier since. In other words, you can't make her quit doing what she wants to do. If you don't like it, ask her not to talk to you about it, or find another girlfriend!
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I agree with cix..in that she has to do it at her own will, and on her own time..I am here getting help with my own alcohol problem...and to be frank, when some one Tells me I'm doing it too much, I fight back harder..by doing it more. SICK huh?Anyway, I drank as a teen, quit, then recently (15 yrs later) am revisiting the problem. I also am a smoker (cigarettes) and NO ONE can tell me when it is time to quit.What has helped is getting info... about how unhealthy, what kind of trouble it is causing in the family. Drunk and stoned, the world looks good...till the next morning.But for you, you really have to decide if the battle and the walk with possible addictions is really worth it with this girl. Does she seem like one to change? or is she a stubborn thing that no matter what you tell her she is going to walk into that brick wall a few times just to know it is there?