HELP: Am I Bi?

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i'm really cornfused at the moment. I think some girls are cute, and i find them easier to talk to at school. If i think about being in a relationship with a friend i think "that might be fun." I flirt with them, but get a little nervous when they flirt w/ me. Also, when i see two girls together, my head goes "wrong wrong wrong." Like i want to be with them, but I when am w/ them get confused and shy away. And after i hang out with the gsa group and see (and participate a little) all these flirty "wrong" acts i start to think that that fantasy fling with a friend will never work and i cant belive i thought of that. and when i think it will never work, something hurts inside, like i'm in denial of myself. I'm also attracked to gay guys which i really really dont get.

I think we're all a bit bi, but part of it might be that your nervousness with girls makes you feel that guys are easier. Try to talk more to both genders and see how you feel then.

I agree with Ineligible. I use to think Lesbians weren't cool at all. Now I found out I'm a bit bi..probably only like 5% since the girl I thought I like is a complete whining boob....and yea we get confused with our feelings. Most likely you're a teen like me. We don't understand much...we'll realize in our adult life these were just infatuation or something. Some may continue on being bi, gay or lesbian.And yea, some gay guys are really hot. Sigh why do they have to be gay! lol. I think its normal! a guy is a guy.

this might help http://www.jackinworld.com./library/articles/strfant.htmlit tells you how you can have the same sex preference but it doesnt mean your gay.

okay if u like dik. ur straight up gay. cuz theres no such thing for bi male. so ur gay and plus u sound like u aviod grls a lil

ok, alwaysHERE...do us all a favor and shut up. please. i "like dik." but i am not gay. and yes there is such a thing as a bi male. what are you smoking?

I am now as you put it in my "adult life"oh how I wish I wasn't though!! I think that you should just go with it and whatever you find comfortable then go with it. There is nothing wrong with liking either sex and yes I agree gay guys are sooooo hot.Why is that??!!I have considered myself to be totally straight up until recently when I had some very strange feelings for a friend which turned into a rather rushed kiss. I still love men and feel guilty of what I did as I am with someone but also now realise that it is ok to have feelings for the same sex. Just go with what you feel comfortable with and goodluck xx

well as alot have said in the teen years its all chalked up to curiosity and if u were bi OH WELL hey just means more people to choose from:) as for alwaysHERE or wuteva,just because someone may like dick doesnt make them absolutely gay same goes for girls,like me i looovee female bodyness very nice but i also like dick though i dont find guys all that hot i mean i know some guys ar egood looking but im not particularly attracted to them just their dick but as ive said before i love only for women well when i finally find her,woman but i know i will never be in love with a guy

In reply to: we're ALL bi to even a little extent. I hate it when people make broad generalizations like that. Unless you have the written consent of some 6+ billion people at your desk while you say ALL I think you may need to reevaluate your position.

Ineligible said: "I think we're all a bit bi"I interpret that as meaning that we all fall on a contiuum of masculinity to femininity. That can be shown by hormone levels and brain activity.At the extremes, there are "super-males" who are born with an extra Y chromosome (XYY Syndrome). There are also "super-females" (meta-females) who have three or more X chromosomes. Most XY (normal) males and XXY (normal) females fall somewhere in between on the masculinity-femininity scale.

Masculinity/femininity may be a red herring, Steve. A gay male is not really a pseudo-female.Even if sexuality is separated from other gender issues, I think it in itself is so complex that a single-dimensional scale may not be an adequate approximation.

[Back on topic...]I agree with that. It's like trying to measure political orientation in a single dimension. It just leads to confusion.

Don't worry too much about it, Dakota. Many people are nervous around the opposite sex and feel the need to back off. It's doesn't make you less attracted to them, its just out of your comfort zone. Also, even though there's a lot of hype about how "hot lesbians are" not every straight guy in the world finds that appealing, so if you don't like two girls together, that doesn't automatically make you bi or gay. Neither does being attracted to gay men. You can see by reading people's post that there is a lot of controversey around whether everyone has these "gay" feelings or not, but the fact is that many do and several consider themselves as straight.So the point is, relax. Nobody can tell you off-hand whether your straight or not, so the best thing to do is live your life, get to know yourself and do what feels right to you. Your feelings will all make sense to you soon.

WILL YOU STOP BRINGING BACK DEAD THREADS?!

its only About month old...

Uh did you even look at the last date?

oops srry

How about we stop yelling at new members.

Well this isn't the first old thread they brought back.

who are you to complain about it?