Hey I am new here and I was wondering if I could get some advice.I am ashamed to say it but I watch porn and though I am sure a lot of people do I feel bad about it. I mean I like watching it but I don't like the fact that I watch it. My family doesn't know and I want to stop or at least cut back on the porn watching cause the logical part of my brain knows it is wrong but there is a part of me that likes it.So if anyone has any tips on how to stop or cut back on watching porn, please post.
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Pornography
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Well, do you watch it on tv, do you have tapes, or do you look it up on the internet?
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there really isn't too much wrong with watching it (unless it's the illegal stuff). What insipres your concern?
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In reply to:So if anyone has any tips on how to stop or cut back on watching porn, please post.Damien can help you with that. But rather, why don't you conder ways of not feeling guilty for enjoying porn, which is the only thing more popular than religious worship in the U.S.?
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I tried that once. But, it didn't work becuase i realised porn is awesome and is a great thing to mastabate to.
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Welcome to the boards Why would you feel ashamed for watching porn, theres nothing wrong with it, lots and lots of people watch/look at porn, its nothing to be ashamed of.
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Well I look it up on the internet and even though a lot of people watch it it's not somehting I am proud of. I mean I like it but I don't like the fact that I watch it. I don't know I just feel I need to cut back on it.
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And the whle ashamed thing. It's not that I feel as if I am the only one doing cause I KNOW I;m not but I was brought up to respect women and I feel as if I am betraying my ideals a bit by watching porn. I've tried to give it up but it is soooo hard to do so.
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In reply to: I was brought up to respect women and I feel as if I am betraying my ideals a bit by watching porn. I definetely agree with what you are saying. I'm the same way.....so if it really bothers you that much then just stop. Thats what i did; however i cant promise that i will NEVER look at porn again lol
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I would suggest you consult with a porn star before assuming it's disrespectful.
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In reply to:Well I look it up on the internet Well, if you really want to stop just install a firewall on your computer that stops you from going to porn websites. It would probably block a lot of other sites too, like this one though.
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Well the pornstar can think whatever she wants, im just goin on how i feel, and apparently im not the only one that feels that way
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In reply to:I mean I like it but I don't like the fact that I watch it.Is there a cause and effect here, or are you grasping for reasons that you shouldn't like porn?In reply to:I don't know I just feel I need to cut back on it.Before you plunge into asceticism, a little more reflection on your part might be in order.(Exactly this came up in another thread a little while ago...)In reply to:I was brought up to respect women and I feel as if I am betraying my ideals a bit by watching pornA photo of a nude person itself is not degrading. Not all "porn" is scatology and water sports. In fact, not much is. Are you defining "porn" stricly as the degrading stuff? Is that what you're attracted to?
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Obviously I'm going to respectfully disagree with my friends Steve and Angel on this one. I applaud your desire to stop doing the porn thing. And I certainly don't think it makes you ascetic or anything else. There are valid reasons to stop, the least of which is the terrible monster called addiction. I think maybe you need to look at the possibility that that is what it is. (Geez...I sound like I'm repeating myself with that one. :grin:)
Although I typically disagree with Steve on this sort of thing, I think his idea that you shouldn't get guilt-ridden about this sort of thing is spot on. Heavy guilt only makes matters worse. If it's an addiction, guilt is part of a vicious cycle.
Here's a suggestion...Set a goal for yourself. Like 30 days with no porn. Then decide on a reward for yourself if you reach it. If after however many days you mess up an look at porn, don't beat yourself up. Just reset the clock and try again.
You can do it! Keep us posted.
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Sounds like a plan Damien. Thanks for the helps guys!
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Why would you want to stop? If you enjoy to watch it, how, and why would you stop. Theres nothing to feel bad about it.
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Pay attention monkey-boy. He doesn't want to do it anymore.