Do men steer away from overweight women as much as the media tells them too? Im about 5'6 and like 170lbs, but i havent had a date in i dont know how long, i was wondering if its because of this...
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Does this affect you much?
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I think it depends on age and how you get to know someone. very young guys are more looks orientated, and being a big girl does put some people off getting to the person better (stupidly).......... some men just arn't attracted to big women, but, some men are very attracted to big women - everyone is attracted to different things about a person. Lets face it we all know that it would be better to be with someone who wasn't a model if they had a brain, were good fun, and great to be with - or at least most people who arn't shallow know that, if someone doesn't like you cos of the way you look then they arn't worth knowing in the first place! and hon you don't sound like your a BIG woman, you sound nice and curvy
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AngelWitch - I so admire your posts.Java_Addict - I have to concur with AngelWitch and sadly enough, Unforgetto too. I also agree with AngelWitch's curvy statement though. Men and women come in all different shapes and sizes and this, I think, is a good thing because if we were all the same it would be boring. Granted not at the cost of anyone's health though. What everyone should understand is that a scale is not an accurate measure of being overweight. Your body composition comes from not JUST your weight but how much of you your body weight comes from fat. For optimal health your body needs appropriate amount of both lean tissue and fat. The average for a healthy woman is 20-25%. Or at least according to my nutrition book and my nutritionist (I hate healthy food but ever since the weight loss crunch took over I decided to give it a go).
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In reply to: AngelWitch - I so admire your posts. erm..........i don't know what to say to that Cenfath blush erm.......thank you
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I think most guys are shallow in that way im sorry to say, sometimes i didnt think it was like that but i was talking with my friend and we saw this girl and hes like SHES FAT and she wasnt even fat it angers me that people think that way, and i hate to say but i use to be that way to...but for the past few months (if you read my post about it ^^ ) i turned completely different in my whole Life style and i dont care what a person looks like personality is 100 % of the person and looks is 0% i hope this makes you feel better because i know there are alot of guys like me out there
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Thanks guys. its just a little rough to deal with
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You can do something about your weight.
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I dont want to, i have been unhappy with myself and i finally became comfortable, i dont wanna go doubting everything again, wait i think i am. dammit.
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being overweight and health issues arn't necesarily connected. There are many 'big' people who are healthy and fitter than so called 'normal sized' people. Just because you are 'big' doesn't mean that you live an unhealthy lifestyle, a friend of mine is a big girl and she never stops, she swims, is active, and eats well, but she has always been the same size as she is now, thats just the way she is.Java Addict - it made me smile to read that you are comfortable with yourself now, or more comfortable should i say Curvy is good. Judging people by what they look like is a very immature way of being, and I have found that men usually grow up (or do they!!) eventually and begin to see people for who they are - as muncher said, he used to be like that, but hes changed, my fiance was very much like that when he was younger, it came from the enviroment he was brought up in, a girlfriend was an accesory(sp?) and to be honest if i had met him then i wouldn't have given him the time of day, shallow narrowminded people, be them male or female really piss me off and i find men like that incredibly unattractive!There will be some lucky man out there who finds you incredibly sexy AND a great person to be with, not everyone listens to the media!
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There are also heavy drinkers who are healthier and fitter than the average person...for a while. Being overweight is correlated with illness, shorter lifespan, lower fertility, and other problems.However, there's no strong evidence (that I know of) that being a bit overweight, as is the original poster, is bad.
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I didn't say that being overweight was a good thing steve, and i know (i am intelligent and educated) that being overweight has issues for health, but she isn't very over weight, and as i said, not ALL overweight people are unhealthier than other sized people.
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Then there are a few overweight people who are as healthy as other-weight people?
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Cut me some slack hon i havn't had enough coffee yet this morning, i mean hell my eyes are barely open laffinyou know what i mean sigh being overweight doesn't necesarily mean you are unhealthy - and im not arguing about this, this early in the morning!!
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In reply to: but you can't deny that being overweight doesn't raise these risks. nope never said i was denying it - its just judgemental attitudes and stereotyping get my back up.
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"Fat people are dumb." Stupid statement."Obesity is correlated with elevated risk of degenerative and other diseases." True statement.
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ok i can't seem to get across what i was trying to say, so i give up sigh In reply to: elevated risk of degenerative and other diseases True statement. there is also a high risk to people who live in cities of asthma etc, but would the first thing you say to someone who said they lived in the middle of london be - arn't you worried about asthma..........did that make any sense? Anyway like i said i give up - next thread laffin
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People usually live where they live for a good reason (job, family, etc.). There's no good reason to be overweight, other than that you are unable to control your weight.
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According to medical textbooks I am 30 lbs overweight. I'm 5'3 and weigh 145. I personally think I'm fine the way I am. I feel great. I look fine to me. The guy I'm seeing doesn't have any complaints. But according to my doctor, my text books, my nutritionist, etc the normal weight for someone of my height is 115. But what my doctor isn't taking into consideration is that I've been lifting weights, running, doing step aerobics, and just about anything else you can think of to make myself the way I am now. I didn't do it for anyone but me. Muscle weighs more than fat and by God I'm a female Helmsman in the making. Actually I'm kidding. I don't think muscle that large look good on women but I do have a lot of muscle and I'm very strong. So I think I'll stick with my 145. My blood pressure is 125/62. My pulse stays around 78-80 at rest. My respirations are about 16. I feel I'm doing fine at the weight I am. I am as healthy as an ox and I'm still considered overweight even by my own doctor. So AngelWitch does have a point.
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If by medical textbooks you mean things like body mass index, you are right. BMI is only a rought guide; if you fall way outside of the guidelines, you might have something to look into.I don't think those guidelines were made with very in-shape people in mind. They were calibrated for the average person. The average American is not in very good shape.But as far as having a relationship is concerned, having a healthy self-image is a lot more important than what one weighs, even if one is genuinely overweight.
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No, just not being able to control your weight isnt it. Some people already have problems that make them Produce more cells or water. Some people have a lot of muscle, that weighs more then fat and they weigh more. Im not that fat i just have a little bit more then other people.