Hi guys, im 15 and have a girlfriend that i have been with for almost a year and love entirely, but for about 2 years i have wondered if i am bisexual and today i experimented with a lad to find out if i am bi, and im not, i didnt like it at all. and im feeling really bad on my girlfriend, is it classed as cheating because i wanted to know who i was or can i put my mind to rest and accept everything is fine?
Cheated on girlfriend with a lad?
Accept it for what it is and that is cheating. I don't think anything is to gained by lying to yourself. However, it's not the end of the world put it up as learning experience, take the knowledge you gained and move on with your life. As much as nothing is gained from lying to yourself there's also nothing gained from dwelling on something.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
I agree. Yes, it's cheating. Acknowledge that and move on.
Screw the whales, save the subjunctive!
well I agree, but I think at your age, and her's if she were to find out about it... it would be the end.. Somethings we learn are just meant to be private so keep it to yourself!
Did you cheat? Yes. But you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. One, you are young and during youth you need to take the time for yourself to work on discovering who you are. That means sometimes doing things that are a little outside of your realm of comfort and a little unorthodox. There is no need to feel guilty, as what you did was in no way meant to harm your girlfriend, but instead something you needed to learn for yourself. Could you imagine being with your girlfriend for several years and not ever truly knowing what you are? Now that would be unfair to her and potentially devastating for your relationship. Now you know. And honestly that going to help you and your relationships in the long run.
But remember, while you might feel the need to, "come clean." I definitely would not suggest telling her. This is something that you did for yourself. That we men need to do sometimes. Be happy with yourself knowing that you took a leap of faith and had to courage to act proactively.