@ Parents with Sons

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Hi. First post on afraidtoask.com. . My friend named "roo" showed me this site.Okay, I noticed there are quite a good amount of adults on these boards compared govteen(which I normally post on). Since govteen outlaws anyone over 25, I have no way to ask questions that only adults can answer.Anyways, to the parents, mothers primairly: Pretend I'm you're son for a sec, I'm 14.I lock my door and its realtively quiet, normally I would be blasting my music or playing videogames on my systems. But occasionally its just quiet, with the door locked. Do you assume that I am mastrabating? Do mothers automatically know that their 14 yr old sons mastrabate?I'm afraid if my mom finds out im mastrabating she'd bug out and grow white hairs or somthing. Because two months ago there was an incident. She was in my room. I was on the computer as usual. She wanted me to look up somthing since she was too "lazy" to boot up the other computer. So i exited out of my game. My desktop wallpaper was a babe from Maxim magazine, February model. So she started bugging out and didn't even know I was even interested in girls. Did she think I was gay or somthing? wtf? But the next day she bought me a gift. It was boxed on the counter. I'm addicted to opening packages that are for me. So i was quite excited to see what it is. Anyways, when I opened up the box it contained 3 books. 3 books about the wonders of growing up, puberty and sex. I give her a "wtf" look. And she just smiled. Am I supposed to be content? I already know about growing up, sex and the whole hunka chunka, theres somthing called the internet. What would her reaction be if she found out I mastrabate? I can't imagine her reaction. I think she'd probably have me institutionalized for being a sex predator or somthing. Eh? Are all moms like this? Don't know their own sons?___

Hey roan welcome to the boards I have 2 boys, younger than you tho, one is nealry 7 the other nearly 11 so i havn't hit the dreaded teenage years - tho i do have an adopted online son on here, but hes a lot easier to deal with since he doesn't live with me, or in this country laffin In reply to: Do you assume that I am mastrabating? Do mothers automatically know that their 14 yr old sons mastrabate? I think any mother who doesn't think her 14 year old doesn'tmasterbate is deluding herself to be honest. I woudn't necessary think you were masturbating JUST cos it was quiet, bit I think i would feel less inclined to knock on the door for a chat grinYour mom might not be open about stuff, and i really think the books were her way of saying, I understand what your going through, im just not very good at talking about it........give her some credit for that if nothing else, being a parent is the hardest job in the world

I'm a male, but I would assume that she already knows or suspects that you may be masturbating. The books are there to let you read up on stuff so that she doesn't have to talk about it with you.

Hi bud and welcome..

Im pretty sure your mom knows... Its a fact of life that boys whack it.. My parents have caught me, so im positive they know...

I have 2 boys, younger than you tho, one is nealry 7 the other nearly 11 so i havn't hit the dreaded teenage years - tho i do have an adopted online son on here, but hes a lot easier to deal with since he doesn't live with me, or in this country laffinand, yes, i think your mom knows, (although im no parent and only 15 myself ), i think my mom knows also, although i never got a talk about it or smth

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If she flipped out over just seeing a girl on your screen saver, I'm guessing she'd have a stroke if she saw you jerking off. But maybe the "Growing Up" books are her way of saying that she "understands" your body & hormones are changing. If you want to get a good idea of how she might react, but without actually seeing you in the act, try asking her a question. "Mom, I was reading the books that you gave me and it said that masturbating is ok, but some people at school said that you should never do it because it will (insert stereotype here). Is it ok to masturbate, Mom?"This puts her on the spot to give you an answer, but doesn't implicate you for jerking off. If she has big problems with it and starts screaming about how evil it is to touch your private areas, then you don't want to put yourself in a position of getting caught. But if she's calm and says it's fine, but something that's done in private then you shouldn't worry about getting caught. But just make sure you keep the door locked, just in case.

In reply to: - tho i do have an adopted online son on here, but hes a lot easier to deal with since he doesn't live with me, or in this country laffin ROTF LMAO ditto with that one... althought not always easy to deal with lol

Hey! i said if i EVER got on ur nerves tell me. Daddy DiverDude

HI Roan,I am going to assume your mom knows about you masterbating,it is a normal thing for a guy your age to do, however protect both of you and keep the doors locked when doing it.about the books I think she is just a little late and probably is just doing what she thinks is right and no i do not think she thought you were gay.

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I think if this particular mother finds it a shock that her 14 year old son is interested in girls (and indeed, what did she expect?) - if she is so out of touch - then asking her about masturbation would be pointless. She may feel obliged to give an "official" answer - always a danger when you ask for explicit permission, because the "official" answer is usually the answer the person feels safest giving, therefore usually no.It seems she didn't realise her son was growing up. I think if you've managed to keep that information from her, Roan, she might be the type who would prefer that to continue, and prefer to know as little as possible.I only have daughters myself. We knew the older was masturbating at a very young age. The younger, on the other hand, guards her privacy. Both have the right to their own choices.

Okay thanks. I will just not talk about to my mom since she should already know