Just to let u know im 17, senior. so the night before i smoked weed for the first time ever may i add, the next day i came home and she was in the living room with the roach in her hand, apparently she was looking through the garbage for something and happened to see the roach. She yelled at me for doing it, she yelled at me "why did u smoke!? "i told everyone how good u r!" and i told her that i wanted to see what was the fuss about . she then started hitting/slapping me repeatedly on my arms and some on my face. she wanted to know who i bought it from and i wouldnt tell her because im not a snitch. she then threatened to call the principal and try to get ppl in trouble, one moment she even told me to call 911 because she was about to kill me, she also threatened to kick me out of the house.im grounded for a month, She's told me i cant go to prom either. I know what i did was wrong but i still think she took the wrong approach of letting me know that. basically all she said was "no, youre bad, no no etc." i think if i was in her place, i would of had a talk with me and tell me why its bad.also before i add, me and my mom arent very close, she has never been to any of my soccer games or wrestling matches or ne thing school related. she never makes an effort, the only time she does make an effort is when i fuck up.
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I got caught smoking...Mom gave me a beat down.
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I think she over reacted "a little". Especially since it was your first time ever... not that it matters it just means it's not like you're smoking weed every day...It's bad but your mom definetely over reacted ...
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wtf you cant say that. It was his first time, she over-reacted. I have never tried pot, but i know if i did i would tell my dad he would talk with me and that would be that.
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I think your mum overreacted a bit. Now she had every right to be upset, but she didn't need to hit you. She should have sat you down and discussed your reasons for trying it and why it's not any good for you. She should not have hit you for it.
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She did go to far. She shouldn't have hit you. That is the stupidest thing to do. She should have sat down and had an adult like conversation with you about it. Threatening to call the principal is stupid. I hate parents like that. "You tryed weed, tell me the dealer so he can get in trouble for giving you the chance to try it" .. Come on. Its all about personal responsibility. It sounds like your mom isn't the greatest either. I know the feeling (Only focusing on the negative)... It doesn't matter that you discovered a cure for cancer, but the car was scratched while you went into a store, so your in major trouble.
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FaBMX, you got me right on the dot, im guessing something similar has happened to you, or u have a similar mom? alls i can say is that this sux. I gave my mom one of those Parent Anti-drug marijuana pamphlets today, maybe it will win me back some of her trust and stuff.
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I can't imagine what my mom would do if she found out I smoke (but only cigarettes) ... I try not to think about it because she will be all over my ass if she does find out... But if it ever does happen... I'll just tell her "whatever it's my life so get off my nuts" and she'll just have to deal with that...I kinda was in a sticky situation today actually... Little background: My mom wasn't going to come home until 5:30 - 6:00 (it was about 3:00 at the time) and my dad was on a business trip as always.. but I didn't know when he was coming home.I had gone over to my friend's house and smoked with him and came back afterwards... and I went to unlock the front door.. and it was open but I could've sworn I had locked it before I left.. so I just said "whatever I guess I left it open" and I go in ... there I see my dad's suitcases... apparently he was coming home today and I didn't know that.Of course I'm smelling like I just smoked a carton and I wasn't planning on anyone being home so I could get rid of the smell before anyone got home... my dad heard me come in and came towards me and started talking me... I just said "Dad, I'm gonna go take a shower it's hot outside and I'm sweaty" and I just left him there... I don't think he noticed anything but it was a close one... one breath in his face and he would've smelled smoke and everything.
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But if it ever does happen... I'll just tell her "whatever it's my life so get off my nuts" and she'll just have to deal with that...
If I was your mom and you said that to me, I would totally beat your ass.
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parents are uptight these days lol, my mom is ok with me smoking pot, as long as i do it once in a while like once every 3 months, she'd rather i don't but she wouldnt scream and yell, she would sit me down and talk about it, with no yelling, just calm conversation. parents get too harsh on stuff, she would never beat me, she wants me to be able to approach her to talk about it and if you beat a child they wont trust you enough to talk......my mom is always there through rough spots in my life, and she would never beat me. parents shouldn't be so harsh and mean.........don't parents want their children to be able to talk to them if they are in a rough spot, or do something wrong, and hitting a child/teen is no way to get your child to open up, they will just hate you .......i dunno, just how i feel
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update well seems like my mom has been acting nice again to me, shes letting me go to prom and giving me money. but she still says im grounded. I was thinking of writiing her a note to get me unpunished saying how im sorry and i made a mistake etc. do u think i should still give it to her? shes already being nice, would a note make things worse again?
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seems kind of messed up about her digging through your trash...should make you wonder if she does that often. If she does that's not cool since it's invading your privacy. You weren't stupid by not airing out or deoderizing your room of the weed smell right? you did bury the roach under a lot of the trash in the trashcan right? if not...you desearve this punishment
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Good thing she beat your ass, bet you'll think twice about, A: doing it again, or B: putting that shit in the garbage after your done. Fab, I dissagree with you saying she shouldn't have hit him. I think she, as well as all parents should beat their kids if they do something stupid, especially at older ages. Get caught stealing...ass beating; Get drunk have a car wreck...ass beating; Smoke pot...ass beating. I bet if parents beat their kids more IF THEY DO STUPID/BAD THINGS then the world, especially in America, wouldn't be as fucked up as it is today. Sometimes a kid just needs to be smacked.
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seems as though you were dropped of your head as a child, beating a child is wrong....even for doing bad things
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Tell me you dont have kids...
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no i don't , you mean me right? my parents never beat me and i don't crash cars, smoke pot (a couple time only), steal, etc. violence isn't always the answer
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maybe not beating in the sense that they are a bloody pulp... here maybe "spanking" sounds better? But this guy was NO child, as he clearly stated in his first sentence, 17 year old, senior...He should be able to know the difference between right and wrong, good and bad, and healthy and unhealthy. DARE is stressed in schools, anti drug ads are on tv all over the globe. Was he in a coma for the last 16 years? did all of this elude him?
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Nope, I was talking to [re: blackmanoncampus], the person who thinks kids need to be beat. oy.
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So what if DARE is everywhere? People are curious and they are going to try things. Most of what DARE and any other govt anti drug move is pure bullshit.
Their is no reason to beat someone that you could just as easily talk to, and make the same point. Its stupid. I dont know what cave you've been in for the last 10 years, but if your seen beating your kid, your going to catch some heat. Besides, what are you teaching the child? To use violence to solve issues. Yeah, thats going to help America a bunch! :angry:
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yeah, you're right, cause talking ALWAYS works. And when it fails? then what? continue talking? Do you know how many drug addicts probably got the "talk" about how bad drugs are? I bet if someone would come out of the corner, shadow, woodwork, whatever and beat their ass or even to a lesser extent, spank them...everytime they toked up...they'd give it up much sooner.
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For some people, beating a 17-year-old may be good sport, but do you have any evidence that it's actually effective? How do you beat a child who may be bigger and stronger than you? "Stand here son/daughter, while I kick your ass."?
Were you raised in a pretty violent environment?