Ok. I've been trying to find answers on the internet for a while, but I can't find answers that apply to me. They always assume I have other problems that I don't have. Basically, here's a rundown of what's wrong.I LOVE sex. Sex is great, I try and get my husband into bed all the time. However, I have never had an orgasm with him. I can orgasm just fine when I masturbate, but not in bed. I can't talk to him about what I want, I feel like I'm being selfish. He doesn't want to eat me out, and wont use his hands. He only wants to have sex. I tried masturbating while we have sex, but he says I get in his way when I do.So, any suggestions?
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Can't Climax
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You husband needs to change his attitude. He's not helping the situation and it can only lead to frustration and anger.
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Basically, your husband is selfish and not a very good lover. Some women just don't orgasm during sex, but in this case I would really have to say its your husbands fault.
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Is there anything I can do personally to try and fix it?
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Have a discussion with your husband about it. You shouldn't feel selfish about it, he seems to be the problem and sex is supposed to be for two people. Unless you have a thing for orgys...
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Yes he is being very selfish. You need to talk with him about it. He should care enough about you to want to please you and do what he can to make sure that happens.
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How about before he climaxes, you say "I'm finished". Then just roll over and go to sleep leaving him frustrated. Let him see how it feels to not have his needs considered. Do it a few times and he'll maybe get the message.
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I agree with the others. You need to talk to him, discuss it. It sounds like he is the one being selfish, as he doesn't seem to have any desire to please you, but loves to get what he wants with a quick shag. Sex is a two way street, giving should be just as much fun as receiving.
You're playing your part in giving, and I think it's only fair that he does his best to please you. Cunnilingus isn't unusual or outrageous, he should give it a try and really get into it.
If he doesn't respond, don't even shag him. Tell him you're not enjoying it much anymore and if he wants a shag he'll have to find some new tricks.
Does he know that you don't climax, or do you fake?
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yep I agree with silent rain...sex is a two way street and you need to enjoy it too.when hubby ask you why you dont wanna play tell him he needs to share a little more...my gosh what the hell does he do for forplay? I feel bad for you there is no reason for you to feel guilty at all he should WANT to please you.