I have everything that I need... why arent I happy

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I have the most amazing boyfriend ever... he gives me what I want when i want it... he does EVERYTHING for me... I have a great family... a nice house... and all that... i work... I have my own job... and i really cant ask for me... but even though I have all that I am truely not happy?!? can anyone help? any opinions? comments? etc? anything will help...
Thanks

One thing that is important is creativity - doing something or making something worthwhile.

maybe your life have been too good so you cant appreciate anything...

hmmm....i read about this stuff sometimes, can never remember the relpies tho, but i will try my best to help you. if u are unhappy try to change your schedule, if that doesnt work, try making new friends. go out more often if you dont go out that much. p.s. im kinda goin through the same thing, so i would like some help on this too

How old are you? It seems that everyone goes through that to some degree at different "age" timeframes. Do you have any goals that you are working toward? or do you just feel content with where you are? Sometimes, just having a new ladder to climb can cheer you up.

Well what do you guys do for fun? what do you do for fun? try to spice thing up and suprise him or talk to him and tell him maybe a few things need to change and tell him to spice things up. All i know is that if he makes you happy then thats good. but also it might be he might not be the one for you

CnD4ever is right, you might need a new "thrill" so to speak, someone new

I'm not sure there is anything we can say that will truely help. I believe this is an inward issue. I also think you know it the best here that the things you have despite how good, are not always the key to happiness. If the suggestions that the others have offered work then you found your solution. If not, take some time off, go on a retreat and "Find Yourself"

No see... the thing is he makes me very happy... the reason for my unhappiness is not him... he is the one for me... I know that... I would just figure with him I wouldnt be so unhappy... like he would help me not be unhappy with other things... IDK... oh well... we will see what happens in time... Thanks guys for all your help... if you have anymore comments... opinions... etc please leave them... anything can/will helpThanks,

Hey no problem. But if he makes you happy then whats the problem? The only advice that i can give you is that maybe the only thing in this world that makes you happy is the one you love the most. But maybe your too young to understand that. But yes time will tell. you only get smarter with time... So live it up and look at it as you and him are meant to be as you say dont let ne thing else break ur happiness with him

You sound like you're just plain depressed.

Surprise! You just learned a life lesson: happiness comes from within. Learning to control your emotions is probably one of the hardest things to do. Meditation helps. I was watching this PBS special called "The Power of Intention" by some guy, I forgot his name, and he said that doing, receiving, or watching an act of kindness creates some kind of chemcial in the brain which can relieve depression. The act doesn't even have to be real, you could just imagine it and it would still work. Good luck with your life.

So have things looked up for you?

well... I went to the doctors and they said that I was depressed and put me on Zoloft. so now I am taking them. Things have seemed to look up a bit for me the last couple days. and with everything that ive been threw... he has still been there for me... thanks guys for everything!

I have the same problem. I'm 15 and since i was about 9 or 10 I always would get really depressed and sometimes i would have anxiety attacks and would get no sleep at night. One night I finally went to my mom at like 2 am and told her what I had been feeling. I didn't know this, but depression runs in my family. Like, my whole mom's side of the family has to take medicine for it. So, i went to the doctor and got a perscription for Zoloft. After about a year, I tried to get off of it and all the problems came back. So, now i take it and when i don't, i get really depressed. Even thought just about everything in my life is perfect...a great boyfriend, family, friends, school, everthing. It's just a disease I have. Maybe you should look into that possibility.

-Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold, the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul.-Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth... Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it. .-see child smile and he who bring his joy on you. you will feel the uplift of your soul and have the will to reach the greatest accomplishments of life

Maybe its not something external your unhappy about. Maybe your unhappy with yourself?

There's a lot of deep philosophical analysis going on here, but it probably won't help much if the original poster is suffering from depression.

Pills aren't the only way to conquer depression.

I'd leave that decision in the hands of a professional. In-person talk therapy also has a place. So does support from friends and folks in the message board community. But I don't think message board support is usually sufficient for "real" depression.And sometimes pills can do a world of good, even when used for a relatively short time.People who might be depressed need to be encouraged to seek out help, not just told to cheer up.