Okay, life sucks. Okay now that i got that over with. How do i deal with this kind of situation. I come home today and all my dad does is bitch because i had been to the gym and my gfs house. For some reason i am the "burden" of his life because im not always home. Does that make any sense? Hes ALWAYS trying to pick fights with me and is ALWAYS making himself out to be a victim.So yea on with the point. He threatened to kick me out of the house in June when i graduate(he said i could live with him until i graduate from community and i trusted him so i took his advice). Now im just a scared kid who has no clue what the fuck to do now. My dad has geared me for failure now. so anyways, yea my dad makes me apply to community college and doesnt let me apply to two other schools of my choice. So he springs it on me for serious right when its too late for me to do anything to help myself out.Im thinking on moving out with my granpa because i know im always welcome there. And i get along with my granpa really well because he doesnt think im some worthless fuck.Any advice? Life seems hopeless
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What should i do?
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Your dad sounds like a knob, i sudgest you get your dads gun, shoot him and blame it on society for making you do it. If you sound concing enough you'll be let off and you'll get his money or at least a portion of it, how you spend it is up to you.
Serious note, only you know the position your in noone else can solve your problems for you, stand up for yourself, don't let ya old man walk all over you, do what you want. -
Ignore Max's post although i'm sure its pretty temping. We all have issues with our parents some more htan others. With me and my dad its a pretty horrible situation as well. As i can really say to u is that you need to do what you need to do for yourself despite what he says. If he kicks you out for doing it i guess u are screwed for awhile but i'm sure you can think of something. IF you apply to a college you can have to the financial aid department and tell them off your situation, and maybe you'll get more money and room and board so you would just have to find somewhere to stay during the summer months. Maybe i'm wrong with that whole scenerio i dont really no all the facts, but i do no this... there are always more options than we allow ourselves to see.
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First, have a long talk with your grandfather and see if he really is prepared to support you over the years at college (remember that that's very different from a brief stay). Find out what the rules of the house will be. If he still agrees, and it's not too inconvenient, I'd go for it. It is very corrosive to live with a parent who keeps bringing you down.
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Sounds sucky... but the thing is, if u move away... I'll see u less then I was going to before. -_- ::sighs:: Alright, heres my situation... alright I've been stressin out to get my grades up so I could have my parents proud of me for once...and besides that I'd feel good ...and if they were good Id be able to go on vacation... so I was working 3x as hard as I normally would... and lemme tell ya...it isnt easy! So vacations coming up... guess what happens ? U'll never guess... CANCELED... due to my dad recieved a court summons from my mom for child support and guess when the date is... during when our vacation was planned... then Im super bummed... and I wanted to move with my dad because Ive been living with my mom all these years and my dad deserves a chance to know me like my mom <> so yea, but then again I wanna live here so I can see my bf... but he might be moving with his granDpa because of his dad problems, and my mom is like "Ill miss u, dont move"... then another day shell be like "ur choice" and its like grr! All of this is so overwhelming, cuz my dad and mom dont like each other and arent even civil with each other , so my dads getting this lawyer. And I have to go in front of all these people I care about and might disappoint someone !!! I need some advice
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In reply to:And I have to go in front of all these people I care about and might disappoint someone !!!Don't worry about disappointing people. You're not responsible for either your mother or your father, and if they want to play stupid games, it's not your fault.Eventually, both you and Sabryn will escape from your parents and find much better living arrangements.
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im starting to think my dad is bipolar for some strange reason. He shifts moods so much ever since my mom died. Hes just worried about himself and then hell switch and worry about me? Its pretty confusing sometimes...Last night i went back to my old house which is two and half hours away. My dad and I fight the whole way down to syracuse to a point where i just blow up and say i dont respect him and i dont give a shit what his girlfriend thinks of me. (Dont think too much of their relationship to begin with because it started a month after my mom died). Earlier that day he bitches me out when my girlfriend is there in the morning while im getting ready so it didnt start good.So, then things seem to get better. We rent a motel room, he loosens up and lets me pick up an old friend of mine and we all go out to dinner. Then we stay the night and wake up at 5ish to drive home. We talk all the way home and at one point he says "sometimes i just think about myself and dont really care what your going through" and he asks my opinon.Things seem to be clearing up, but im timid to get all buddy-buddy again due to this. He constantly threatens this but actually sounded really serious this time so i actually tried to find a place to leave.Well just an update