My girlfriend and I trying to have sex; she is a virgin.
Problem is that everytime I try to penetrate, she like screams in pain. I barely got the tip in, and she was in tears. I'm averaged sized, so it's not that.
I tried different positions, regular missionary, then doggie, and even asked her to be on top, so she can control everything. Nothing helped.
I used extra lube, plus she was natrually wet herself.
We're not sure how to go on from here. I really don't want to hurt her, and am kinda worried that she might tear.
Any suggestions? anything that can help?
Too Tight and in Pain
That can be due to nerves on her part, making her involuntarily clamp up. Perhaps she doesn't quite feel right about doing it?
it's probably just the nerves... there are however some antomical abnormalties that can lead to this but the chance of having those is small so i'll just consider it nerves.
just take your time,.,, at least have an hour of foreplay. kiss her everywehre, say sweet things. don't come near the !@#$% for at least the first hour. make her feel she is a princes. touch her softly kiss her, hold her and so on.
after an hour try it, but takle it easy.. cos she is still a virgin so she'll still have nerves. that's why you should talk to her say sweet things during foreplay so she feels save with you
keep in mind there is too much foreplay, and don't base your relationship on sex... BAD IDEA FOR HER TO THINK!
Have you fingered her? Try using one finger, then 2, and see how that goes
I'd put it down to one of two things or a combination of both.
1) She's nervous and not fully accepting. This can be subconscious. Do you have complete and absolute privacy? Is she worried someone will hear? Has she ever had anything up there?
2) She's a bit tight. Try fingering with one, two etc then go from there.
To get around the nerves a bit, try going down and getting her aroused that way. When aroused, and really into the situation, and somewhat 'desensitised' to having something poking around down there, you'll be surprised how much the surrounding muscles and loosen up.
That may have sounded a little crude, but it's really not meant to be!